It's Sunday and bishop's word was about changing your circumstances. He spoke from the story of Jesus changing water to wine. Bishop took it from the perspective that when Jesus asked for the water to be brought to the wedding spot he was setting it up for transitioning. Just the water was set up for transition so are we.
God places us in unfamiliar situations so that we can learn a lesson in preparation for what he has for us next in our life. What I took from this is that I should consider my trials and tribulations or tough situations as a repositioning readying me for transition.
So I'm trying to think about what's going on in my life at this moment.
1. I have joined the Young Leaders Council which in my opinion is out of my league and a step in committed growth and outreach which I wholeheartedly signed up for and it was on my list of goals for 2009 so, I consider that success. Is that repositioning for transition? Yes, I think so.
2. The director has asked me to head up an evaluation of the program she is responsible for implementing. The evaluation is at least a 1-2 year evaluation. The first for me in what I hope to be a long line of significant program evaluations. Is this reposition for transition? Yes. My direct in-house supervisor only saw fit to give me work that I consider tedious and monotonous.
3. I currently for the 1st time have no prospective gentlemen callers and I'm okay with that. I wouldn't say totally okay but I am more okay than I have ever been in the past. Would I consider this repositioning for transistion? Yes. I'm coming to realize that I need to do better. I deserve better and I can do better. I have been settling for too long and it's only caused severe damage to my emotions, will, and desire.
There are other repositioning situations that have happened this year but for the most part, there's only one that really matters and sets the tone for all the rest. It's my way of seeing things. My way of looking at situations. My way of accepting who I am, who I need to be, and what I need to do to make changes. Destiny is my soul purpose for being. If I'm not focused on my destiny then I'm headed in the wrong direction.
As God works transition in my life the only thing I can do is ready myself for the respositioning, be a willing participant, grasp the lessons I'm suppose to learn, and allow God full rein over my life. Follow his steps and lead by example.
What's your respositioning mantra? Where are you going? Where have you been? What have you learned? Have you been transformed in a way that you recognize only God could do? What's your destiny? What's your purpose? Who do you serve? Where are you going?
Showing posts with label words of wisdom. Show all posts
Showing posts with label words of wisdom. Show all posts
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Monday, August 17, 2009
FIST FULL OF TEARS
Sometimes the thing you want the most is not the best thing for you. Let that thing go. Cry about it. Blog about it. Pray about it. Move on. What's not good for you will not work out for you. God orders your steps. You disorder your steps. Only God can lead the dance. Everyone else misses the beats.
Spare yourself the time and energy. Do it right the first time around. Right isn't always easy to do, but its worth it.
Don't cry over spilled milk. It's spilt for a reason.
Spare yourself the time and energy. Do it right the first time around. Right isn't always easy to do, but its worth it.
Don't cry over spilled milk. It's spilt for a reason.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
How hard is it to run a non-profit
I am a 2006 graduate of UT's master's social work program. I thought I had what it takes to run a non-profit. I learned how to write a proposal, I learned how to do program evaluations, I learned how to work with advocates, work with policy issues, and even landed a job with a government nonprofit which has provided opportunity to use everything I learned in my 2-year social work program. I even used my assignments as an opportunity to test my non-profit agency design.
How then, am I having such a difficult time soliciting reliable volunteers and funds. Why am I still up in arms about writing the actual program design and evaluation tools for Youth Changes. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I understand that I am not a charismatic person. I have little to no experience in attracting believers and idea followers. I'm not a people person. At least I wouldn't consider myself one since I am usually left to my own notoriety all by myself.
The number of board members needed depends on the organization and its goal and purpose. In creating my own nonprofit I now know that I would 1st establish a board of dedicated individuals before I try to activate my agency in its designed purpose. Without dedicated and dependable board members your agency is going to be stagnant forever.
More to come later. There are so many issues on this topic I need and want to cover.
How then, am I having such a difficult time soliciting reliable volunteers and funds. Why am I still up in arms about writing the actual program design and evaluation tools for Youth Changes. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. I understand that I am not a charismatic person. I have little to no experience in attracting believers and idea followers. I'm not a people person. At least I wouldn't consider myself one since I am usually left to my own notoriety all by myself.
The number of board members needed depends on the organization and its goal and purpose. In creating my own nonprofit I now know that I would 1st establish a board of dedicated individuals before I try to activate my agency in its designed purpose. Without dedicated and dependable board members your agency is going to be stagnant forever.
More to come later. There are so many issues on this topic I need and want to cover.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
HELP THE YOUNG HELP THEMSELVES
Working in social service allows you the opportunity to see a lot of scenarios you would not expect to see someone go through in their lifetime. Because I am graduate school educated I think I have all the answers. It is easy to think that if you just did x then y and z would happen. Or if you just did not do x then y and z would not have happened and you would not be in that predicament.
I mentor a young lady who has grown to mean the world to me. I'm not wanting to take her mother's place, but I am wanting to adopt her and raise her as my own. I think she could do so much better than what she's doing. Then again I think that about everyone including myself. In my eyes all the opportunities are there. It's the acceptance of these opportunities that she's not taking advantage of that exhaust me.
I admit I had a very boring childhood. When I graduated high school I was so ready to leave that small town there was not a bus, car, train, or plane that could get me out of there fast enough. I did not have the exposure and comradery my little girl has with her classmates, fashion, entertainment, or even after school activities. So in my eyes being involved in organizations and after school programs was my only way out of the house. Sad to say my only opportunity to dress up and go somewhere was going to church on Sunday. Personally, I think that is why I stay away from the house so much now. I hate to me at home even though I live by myself and can do what I want, I refuse to sit still cooped up in a house doing nothing.
This leads me to not understanding why youth in a metropolitan area so full of opportunity have nothing to show for it except poverty, crime, truancy, in-school suspension, and boredom, not to mention a lack of interest in educational adventure such as learning to cook, sew, rock climb, website design, etc.
I have to continually pull myself back and realize that not everyone is as easily entertained as I am with opportunity to learn something new or grow beyond the present state of boys and music. So, to my little girl and those out there like her full of love for drama, the undaunted necessity to talk back, and an relentless subjection to disobey authority please forgive me for not understanding why my way does not work all the time and I have to beg and plead over and over again to make you see it my way.
I'm only trying to save you from success-less-ness.
I mentor a young lady who has grown to mean the world to me. I'm not wanting to take her mother's place, but I am wanting to adopt her and raise her as my own. I think she could do so much better than what she's doing. Then again I think that about everyone including myself. In my eyes all the opportunities are there. It's the acceptance of these opportunities that she's not taking advantage of that exhaust me.
I admit I had a very boring childhood. When I graduated high school I was so ready to leave that small town there was not a bus, car, train, or plane that could get me out of there fast enough. I did not have the exposure and comradery my little girl has with her classmates, fashion, entertainment, or even after school activities. So in my eyes being involved in organizations and after school programs was my only way out of the house. Sad to say my only opportunity to dress up and go somewhere was going to church on Sunday. Personally, I think that is why I stay away from the house so much now. I hate to me at home even though I live by myself and can do what I want, I refuse to sit still cooped up in a house doing nothing.
This leads me to not understanding why youth in a metropolitan area so full of opportunity have nothing to show for it except poverty, crime, truancy, in-school suspension, and boredom, not to mention a lack of interest in educational adventure such as learning to cook, sew, rock climb, website design, etc.
I have to continually pull myself back and realize that not everyone is as easily entertained as I am with opportunity to learn something new or grow beyond the present state of boys and music. So, to my little girl and those out there like her full of love for drama, the undaunted necessity to talk back, and an relentless subjection to disobey authority please forgive me for not understanding why my way does not work all the time and I have to beg and plead over and over again to make you see it my way.
I'm only trying to save you from success-less-ness.
Monday, May 25, 2009
The Rose Within
A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossemed, he examined it. He saw the bud that would woon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and th though, "how can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he negleted to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom...it died.
So it is with many peopole. Within every soul there is a rose. Thi god-like qualitities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects. We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and evntually it dies. We never realize our potential. Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. ONe of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristics of love...to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life...all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they wil conquer their throns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
So it is with many peopole. Within every soul there is a rose. Thi god-like qualitities planted in us at birth, grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects. We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and evntually it dies. We never realize our potential. Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. ONe of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristics of love...to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life...all the while recognizing the nobility in their soul. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they wil conquer their throns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Gaining Direction for your Life
So, my bishop got married May 23 2009. I am so happy for him and the new 1st lady. A man as wonderful as him deserves happiness and companionship.
Of course that means our bishop had to consecrate the marriage! And I know he was more than ready for that LOL! Needless to say, we had a substitute for worship service Sunday May 24th and rightfully so.
Pastor Charles Jenkins from Fellowship Missionary Baptist Church sacrificed leaving his church service to take care of his friend Bishop Walker's sheep. And I am so glad he did because he delivered and AWESOME sermon.
"Gaining Direction for your life." Scripture base, Habakkuk 2:2 talks about how Habakkuk the faithful God loving man pursued his ambitions placed on him by God. No matter what the circumstances he pressed on in the name of Jesus.
Jeremiah 29:11 Pastor Jenkins reminded us that God has something for everyone. There's no need to worry about what other people have going on. As long as you follow the word of God you will receive your just reward.
If you want to change what you are receiving in your life then change the ppl you take your issues to. They have no idea what is in store for you. Only God knows that. So why bother communicating with those outside the realm when there answers are with God. Matthew 7:7 Prayer brings forth the answers and directions you need.
Be not weary for God has the answers and will give you what you need. You only have to continue talking to him, listening, and follow his lead.
Examples of God giving directions: Gen 12:1, Ex 3:14, Judges 6:14, and Joshua 4:15.
When God gives you a vision, it is for an appointed time. There is no time to waste when God gives you direction you must act and not procrastinate. As I reflect on this segment I think I may have missed many an opportunity to do what it is God has for me. I once received vision to start an after school enrichment program in my hometown and extend it to small cities across the U.S. I have yet to fulfill that vision because there is no way I want to return home to my small town full of depression, defeat, and stagnation. I seem to no longer have that vision as I am just trying to maintain where I am and not loose footing.
All things happen for a reason. I believe God has put something great in the cards for me. The direction I'm headed in now seems to be a pretty good foundation builder for the next steps in my progress. I'm not giving up and I must try harder to make that vision come true whether it is the same as originally viewed of if there are adaptations.
Patience is the ability to wait on God and follow his lead when it seems there is no way out of what your in. In order to fulfill the vision God has set for us, we have to Pray about it and ask for guidance. God will provide direction for that vision. Once we receive that vision we have to write it down and make it plain so that we wont forget it and work towards carrying it out.
God will only give you visions that are progressive and build on one another. In this progression others may not understand whats going on. Your job is to continue in the word, work the vision, and be patient waiting on the results.
God knows what he's doing. Trust Him.
Of course that means our bishop had to consecrate the marriage! And I know he was more than ready for that LOL! Needless to say, we had a substitute for worship service Sunday May 24th and rightfully so.
Pastor Charles Jenkins from Fellowship Missionary Baptist Church sacrificed leaving his church service to take care of his friend Bishop Walker's sheep. And I am so glad he did because he delivered and AWESOME sermon.
"Gaining Direction for your life." Scripture base, Habakkuk 2:2 talks about how Habakkuk the faithful God loving man pursued his ambitions placed on him by God. No matter what the circumstances he pressed on in the name of Jesus.
Jeremiah 29:11 Pastor Jenkins reminded us that God has something for everyone. There's no need to worry about what other people have going on. As long as you follow the word of God you will receive your just reward.
If you want to change what you are receiving in your life then change the ppl you take your issues to. They have no idea what is in store for you. Only God knows that. So why bother communicating with those outside the realm when there answers are with God. Matthew 7:7 Prayer brings forth the answers and directions you need.
Be not weary for God has the answers and will give you what you need. You only have to continue talking to him, listening, and follow his lead.
Examples of God giving directions: Gen 12:1, Ex 3:14, Judges 6:14, and Joshua 4:15.
When God gives you a vision, it is for an appointed time. There is no time to waste when God gives you direction you must act and not procrastinate. As I reflect on this segment I think I may have missed many an opportunity to do what it is God has for me. I once received vision to start an after school enrichment program in my hometown and extend it to small cities across the U.S. I have yet to fulfill that vision because there is no way I want to return home to my small town full of depression, defeat, and stagnation. I seem to no longer have that vision as I am just trying to maintain where I am and not loose footing.
All things happen for a reason. I believe God has put something great in the cards for me. The direction I'm headed in now seems to be a pretty good foundation builder for the next steps in my progress. I'm not giving up and I must try harder to make that vision come true whether it is the same as originally viewed of if there are adaptations.
Patience is the ability to wait on God and follow his lead when it seems there is no way out of what your in. In order to fulfill the vision God has set for us, we have to Pray about it and ask for guidance. God will provide direction for that vision. Once we receive that vision we have to write it down and make it plain so that we wont forget it and work towards carrying it out.
God will only give you visions that are progressive and build on one another. In this progression others may not understand whats going on. Your job is to continue in the word, work the vision, and be patient waiting on the results.
God knows what he's doing. Trust Him.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
NO THANK YOU!
So he's probably calling because he's horny. It's been about a month so his hormones are growing weak. It's too late. I'm not giving him another chance. I'm not responding to text messages or phone calls. It's always the same song and no revelation. I miss him and I love him and I'm in-love with him, but i'm not going to continue to subject myself to someone who does not feel the same way about me.
What was I thinking dating a guy who thinks it's okay to have babies all throughout Tennessee. He's not selective in who he has a baby with and thinks it's no big deal to have a different mother for every child. Why should I feel special about the possibility of having his child. It wouldn't mean anything to him except another child support payment which he seems to not mind at all.
I'm looking forward to attracting a good man that wants to truly be with me, get to know me, and grow with me. Yes it's all about me and I have no shame about it. I am not ashamed about what I want and don't want. I believe I deserve to be admired and truly loved so if I can't get that then I'm not wasting my time. I'm a very loving individual and I give 100% of myself to building a relationship why shouldn't I expect the same thing in return?
What was I thinking dating a guy who thinks it's okay to have babies all throughout Tennessee. He's not selective in who he has a baby with and thinks it's no big deal to have a different mother for every child. Why should I feel special about the possibility of having his child. It wouldn't mean anything to him except another child support payment which he seems to not mind at all.
I'm looking forward to attracting a good man that wants to truly be with me, get to know me, and grow with me. Yes it's all about me and I have no shame about it. I am not ashamed about what I want and don't want. I believe I deserve to be admired and truly loved so if I can't get that then I'm not wasting my time. I'm a very loving individual and I give 100% of myself to building a relationship why shouldn't I expect the same thing in return?
Monday, April 20, 2009
Stupid Pet Tricks!
I miss my baby. He acts so much like a child it's ridiculous. He throws temper tantrums when I don't call or respond to every message. If he is the last one to call or text and I don't say anything back he wont speak to me until I say something to him. He thinks we should keep track and take turns responding. He is so stupid. I'm crazy about him and for some reason I feel this is the best I can do as far as a long term relationship with someone I truly want to be with but I'm really ready to call it quits.
I shouldn't feel so frustrated and have to deal with such idiocy in a relationship. I'm better off just being by myself and wishing I had someone to be with. Like the the one before I just have to cut my ties, close my heart, and let it go. Just because I love him doesn't mean we should be together. I've given him way too many chances. He's just stupid and childish. Besides that he's made it clear that he doesn't want to get married so what's the point of hanging on anyway if we don't want the same thing.
Lawd! Lawd! Lawd! Yhy are you playing with me?! As I'm typing this fool just text me! I'm so freakin confused. Here's his smart-ass text "Jus sayin gdmornin" This fool ain't said shit to me all beautiful weekend. Who the fuck he been with all weekend? I've had dilemmas to deal with all weekend. I needed someone to vent and talk to. I thought that's what boyfriends are for and he's no where to be found. Not there when I need him.
What should I do? Should I jump and respond? Should I wait and respond later today? Should I even respond and all and go ahead with my decision to completely drop his ass for good?
It's 8am. I think I'll pass on the responding. Cuz if that's all his dumb ass has to say is good freakin morning after not speaking to me all damn weekend for some childish-ass reason then fuck him.
I shouldn't feel so frustrated and have to deal with such idiocy in a relationship. I'm better off just being by myself and wishing I had someone to be with. Like the the one before I just have to cut my ties, close my heart, and let it go. Just because I love him doesn't mean we should be together. I've given him way too many chances. He's just stupid and childish. Besides that he's made it clear that he doesn't want to get married so what's the point of hanging on anyway if we don't want the same thing.
Lawd! Lawd! Lawd! Yhy are you playing with me?! As I'm typing this fool just text me! I'm so freakin confused. Here's his smart-ass text "Jus sayin gdmornin" This fool ain't said shit to me all beautiful weekend. Who the fuck he been with all weekend? I've had dilemmas to deal with all weekend. I needed someone to vent and talk to. I thought that's what boyfriends are for and he's no where to be found. Not there when I need him.
What should I do? Should I jump and respond? Should I wait and respond later today? Should I even respond and all and go ahead with my decision to completely drop his ass for good?
It's 8am. I think I'll pass on the responding. Cuz if that's all his dumb ass has to say is good freakin morning after not speaking to me all damn weekend for some childish-ass reason then fuck him.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Tidbits from Bible Study
A relationship with God requires covenant, communion, and commitment.
Just because other people failed you does not mean God will.
Variances of Grace
Saving Grace - another chance to carry out his word
Sustaining Grace - strength to keep going
Invest in whatever my ministry is whether it be family, career, relationship, etc.
What grieves God the most is that you consider a thing finished/over/failed in the presence of God. It grieves God that you give up when he's in the midst with you.
How to make your personal relationships work:
1. Appreciate the difference
2. Don't compare
3. Honor one another
4. Be loyal - remain friends
5. Cherish intimacy
6. Be spiritually attentive
7. Make happy memories
Just because other people failed you does not mean God will.
Variances of Grace
Saving Grace - another chance to carry out his word
Sustaining Grace - strength to keep going
Invest in whatever my ministry is whether it be family, career, relationship, etc.
What grieves God the most is that you consider a thing finished/over/failed in the presence of God. It grieves God that you give up when he's in the midst with you.
How to make your personal relationships work:
1. Appreciate the difference
2. Don't compare
3. Honor one another
4. Be loyal - remain friends
5. Cherish intimacy
6. Be spiritually attentive
7. Make happy memories
Sunday, January 18, 2009
Don't Be Afraid To Be Bigger Than What You Are
Don’t be afraid to be bigger than what you are. I received this word while listening to my bishop (http://www.josephwalker3.org/ ) on Streaming Faith (http://www.streamingfaith.com/ ).
I have attended this church since 1994. I have heard many sermons from Bishop Walker. They have become all too familiar. However today as in any other day, the word may be the same, but the message always hits me in a different way. I failed to realize this in 2008. I knew it, but had grown tired of the same old song. Listening to today’s message based on scripture reference John 15 about being ready to go the extra mile and lining oneself up with the word caused a familiar revelation.
The scripture talks about being connected to the true vine which is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and purging ourselves from those that mean us no good or only hang around and drag us down. I have seldom “purged” anyone from my life that I felt was of immediate danger, threat, or proved non-beneficial to my life. Unless you count men I’ve dated then there have been plenty. However, I consider that a casualty of war. They come and they go. No big deal. I have wondered nonetheless if I have ever been intentionally “purged” from someone’s life without me actually realizing that’s what was happening.
Sidebar-train of thought derailed-insert different but related subject here >Most people have high school and college friends whom they keep in touch with for a lifetime. They know each other’s friends, family, behaviors, dreams, plans, wishes, and desires. I on the other hand, can’t really say I have kept in touch with friends from the past. I also cannot say that I have developed strong bonded relationships with friends past or present. At least not to what my understanding of what friendship is considered.
In my opinion friends are those that spend quality time together doing all sorts of things together. They are friends because in a lot of ways they are alike, but what keeps them friends is the ways in which they differ. You can’t be friends with yourself alone or how else would you grow. The reason for the difference is to experience something new together. Keep each other out of trouble and push each other to be better than the rest. Do I have friends that encourage me? I would say no. Nor do I have friends that discourage me. I have friends that are simply just “friends.” And what does this mean? I have no idea. What I’m saying is I don’t really feel close to my “friends” and I’m not really sure how they feel about me. Maybe it could be me just be me pms-ing this week. Then again, I don't think so.
Now back to my original intended post. > My career and life expectancies I dream of have been halted in part due to my fear of success. I am afraid that the things I want to do will push me into the open to be scrutinized and perhaps summoned for an even greater work. The craziness is that is what I want. I want to be considered an expert professional in my field. I want to be asked to speak on this or write a critique or article about that. I want to be deeply involved in the community and recognized as a great leader and one who brings the masses together for preventive youth services, disseminating stereotypes, and challenging the mindset of society’s distrust and frustration with at-risk youth. And by the way, I am starting to really hate that word “at-risk” to describe our low income multi-barrier families. I am destined to come up with a new more positive adjective to describe this hardworking energetic and creative group.
Hence the message I received from the word, don’t be afraid to be bigger than what you are. This was not the specific words that came out of the bishop’s mouth, but indeed what the Lord delivered to me as I listened to the same sermon I’ve heard more than a few times. This was a new revelation for me, one that I realized one day during my company’s re-organization orientation. After reviewing the new way of doing things the directors hope was that we would buy into the concept and figure out what action steps we would take to make the workplace a more desirable place to start a career and stay. These are the goals and action steps I came up with that I thought would help progress the agency.
1. Help the people we provide services for be more successful
2. Make sure our clients are satisfied with our services
3. Grow our own skills and capabilities
What specific actions can I take to help meet these goals?
Work harder on making the numbers add up in a positive light for the clients more so than for the government
Produce a more sound and qualitative analysis of client needs, services rendered, and true to life roads to self sufficiency (this can be done during surveys/ focus groups etc)
Take a SPSS class.
Improve Excel skills, Leadership development, Practice more on data capture and analysis
Improve writing skills
Release the fear of communication
Build confidence
Think more on a permanent basis rather than temporal
Set higher standards for myself by developing a better sense of self
Writing down my skills and look for ways to improve and add needed skills such as policy analysis, data analysis, data management, organizational management, time management
Do more to ease the stress of someone else's job by doing my job in the most accurate and efficient way possible
Make the effort to be on time, friendly, cooperative, involved, and successful. Continue to recognize that my job today is a building block for my next career move.
I have attended this church since 1994. I have heard many sermons from Bishop Walker. They have become all too familiar. However today as in any other day, the word may be the same, but the message always hits me in a different way. I failed to realize this in 2008. I knew it, but had grown tired of the same old song. Listening to today’s message based on scripture reference John 15 about being ready to go the extra mile and lining oneself up with the word caused a familiar revelation.
The scripture talks about being connected to the true vine which is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and purging ourselves from those that mean us no good or only hang around and drag us down. I have seldom “purged” anyone from my life that I felt was of immediate danger, threat, or proved non-beneficial to my life. Unless you count men I’ve dated then there have been plenty. However, I consider that a casualty of war. They come and they go. No big deal. I have wondered nonetheless if I have ever been intentionally “purged” from someone’s life without me actually realizing that’s what was happening.
Sidebar-train of thought derailed-insert different but related subject here >Most people have high school and college friends whom they keep in touch with for a lifetime. They know each other’s friends, family, behaviors, dreams, plans, wishes, and desires. I on the other hand, can’t really say I have kept in touch with friends from the past. I also cannot say that I have developed strong bonded relationships with friends past or present. At least not to what my understanding of what friendship is considered.
In my opinion friends are those that spend quality time together doing all sorts of things together. They are friends because in a lot of ways they are alike, but what keeps them friends is the ways in which they differ. You can’t be friends with yourself alone or how else would you grow. The reason for the difference is to experience something new together. Keep each other out of trouble and push each other to be better than the rest. Do I have friends that encourage me? I would say no. Nor do I have friends that discourage me. I have friends that are simply just “friends.” And what does this mean? I have no idea. What I’m saying is I don’t really feel close to my “friends” and I’m not really sure how they feel about me. Maybe it could be me just be me pms-ing this week. Then again, I don't think so.
Now back to my original intended post. > My career and life expectancies I dream of have been halted in part due to my fear of success. I am afraid that the things I want to do will push me into the open to be scrutinized and perhaps summoned for an even greater work. The craziness is that is what I want. I want to be considered an expert professional in my field. I want to be asked to speak on this or write a critique or article about that. I want to be deeply involved in the community and recognized as a great leader and one who brings the masses together for preventive youth services, disseminating stereotypes, and challenging the mindset of society’s distrust and frustration with at-risk youth. And by the way, I am starting to really hate that word “at-risk” to describe our low income multi-barrier families. I am destined to come up with a new more positive adjective to describe this hardworking energetic and creative group.
Hence the message I received from the word, don’t be afraid to be bigger than what you are. This was not the specific words that came out of the bishop’s mouth, but indeed what the Lord delivered to me as I listened to the same sermon I’ve heard more than a few times. This was a new revelation for me, one that I realized one day during my company’s re-organization orientation. After reviewing the new way of doing things the directors hope was that we would buy into the concept and figure out what action steps we would take to make the workplace a more desirable place to start a career and stay. These are the goals and action steps I came up with that I thought would help progress the agency.
1. Help the people we provide services for be more successful
2. Make sure our clients are satisfied with our services
3. Grow our own skills and capabilities
What specific actions can I take to help meet these goals?
Work harder on making the numbers add up in a positive light for the clients more so than for the government
Produce a more sound and qualitative analysis of client needs, services rendered, and true to life roads to self sufficiency (this can be done during surveys/ focus groups etc)
Take a SPSS class.
Improve Excel skills, Leadership development, Practice more on data capture and analysis
Improve writing skills
Release the fear of communication
Build confidence
Think more on a permanent basis rather than temporal
Set higher standards for myself by developing a better sense of self
Writing down my skills and look for ways to improve and add needed skills such as policy analysis, data analysis, data management, organizational management, time management
Do more to ease the stress of someone else's job by doing my job in the most accurate and efficient way possible
Make the effort to be on time, friendly, cooperative, involved, and successful. Continue to recognize that my job today is a building block for my next career move.
I have learned a lot about myself in the last year or so. The issue is putting it use and taking my life and existence to new heights.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Marriage...DONT DO IT GIRL! unless he's heaven sent
Words from Pastor Jamal Harrison-Bryant:
I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place.
When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, 'I can do bad all by myself.
For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way.
So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that he stands out above the crowd:
For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way.
So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that he stands out above the crowd:
- Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
- Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
- Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
- And most importantly, allow the Holy Ghost to take control. You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are!
I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the 'man of your dreams,' but God says, 'Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me. '
Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character.
However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, 'The same thing that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me.'
God is so sick of saints coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: 'I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!'
The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the mother-in-law tells Ruth, 'You have to wash.' John 15:3 reminds us, Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that you've accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you.
Ask God to 'create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.' Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength. Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right. This message is not directed at the receiver, it is directed to women I know that touch other young women that can benefit from this information. We are to be Naomi's of the world today. Our young women need to be informed of how to catch and keep a man that will respect .
" If he can't meet you where you are....leave him where he's at "
'Every Saint Has a Past, Every Sinner Has A Future'
BE REAL! HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY
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