Somebody Lieing!

So, I'm talking to Mississippi last night. He's so immature I asked him how old he was. Everytime I ask him he gets offended or doesn't really want to answer the question. Last night we got into a lil argument because he asked was age a problem. I'm like what the hell is the big deal. So I thought he was 34. It's posted on his profile that he's 34 and I could sware he told me he was 34.

1. He said he made a mistake when he filed out his profile and just didnt bother correcting it so he just left it. The problem I have with this is he told me his sister filled out his profile. hmmm (loser)

2. He said he never told me he was 34. He claims he told me he was 32. Lie! Why would I make up something like that? i'm so blahhhhhhhhhhaggg!! Okay so I just left it alone because he was getting real defensive. Y? I have no idea.

The final verdict: I think this negro is in his damn 20s!!! Y?

1. His ass talked about him and his friend riding around like they showboys (wat the hell) I had to get the f off the phone after that shit. I'm like who in the hell talks about riding around first off and riding around like you a showboy??? yyyyyyyyy jesuz?


2. His ONLY conversation is "What are you wearing to bed?" What do you have one? I want to suck your toes. Next time we meet I'm going to bring the massage oil etc. Negro didnt I tell yo ass you AINT gettin no ass!!!!!!!!!!!!??????!!!!!!!!!!! He is so concerned about getting some booty. Y I have no idea. Only because he's not really interested in me but interested in new booty and this negro is in is freakin 20s!


3. I tried to talk to him about what's going on in the news. He was silent. Couldn't tell me whats going on in Mississippi. Nothing. He didnt even know why he voted for Barack or what was going on with the campaign.


4. He orignally told me he was not into watching sports (thats a negative in my book but i was willin to work with him). So we were out this weekend and he was all into the LSU game. I was like negro I thought you werent into watching sports (reminder he played football for university of southern mississippi). His ass talking about " I didnt say that, I said I dont watch NFL or NBA but I like college football" DISSSSSSSSS JIGGA!! I'm like if thats what you wanted to do just say so. Thats all I do on Saturday is watch football. We could have easily done that instead of out tryin to spend money. (the lil town we were in was wasy sorry)


5. Whenever we talk about something I have to repeat myself the next day because he will ask the same question somewhere down the line. I'm like..didnt we already talk about this. Now in my opinion, if your interested in someone wouldnt you want to know more about them and interested in what they have to say and remember?


6. This negro orginally told me his b'day was Sep 25. Yes we talked about that before we met because I said my mom's bday was the 9th my sisters got married in september and my uncle's anniversary was in september. So I know for a fact we had this conversation. On last night his ass said Sep 2. WHAT THE HELL!! Lawd I need a break from the shnit! Something in the kool aid just aint right


7. Showboy!! I cannot get over this one. Who in the heeeeeeelll talks about riding around like a showboy if they in they 30s??


8. When I left, he stayed in the lil town and hung out with his friend. He claims his friend is in his 20s and just wanted to ride around and blah blah blah. Okay..I'm just not having a good day here. Now I mentor a young lady. she will turn 13 this weekend. She dont even ask to go riding around But whatever.
9. I tried to figure out other things to do when we met up in December. I mentioned going to a Grizzles game. This jigga got quiet as heck. I'm like damn. You braggin about all this money you make and toys you drive and how you like plays and doing other things....So, I guess thats a no go. If he think I'm going to drive to Miss. and do the same damn thing everytime and thats going to get him so ass he is sadly miserably mistaken. IDioT!

I got more but i got things to do today. I'm just shaking my head at how pitiful I am messing around and how excited i was yesterday about this fool. pray for me ppl !

Finally met Mississippi

Met up with Mississippi this weekend. We had a few quals on the way, but once we finally saw each other everything was forgotten and we had a good time. I kicked his ass in bowling. Of course being a man he tried to make excuses but we all know the truth. I didn't embarrass him too bad. We only played one game. That way his ego would still be in tact for the weekend. Plus he kicked my but in pool. I actually played pretty good the 1st game to my surprise. Sometimes I have a good game sometimes I have to cheat :-)

We also saw Bernie Mac and Sam Jackson's Soulmen. It was so so. Not really as funny as I thought it would be but I laughed just the same. It was good seeing Bernie in his final show. He was great as usual and Sam's as was load and crazy as hell. What else would you expect. I also expected Isaac Hayes to have a singing part in the movie, but he didnt. It was almost as if he was too old or sick to work with or something. He didnt have many lines and it seemed as if the cast had to play to him and give cues or not go to far off cue. I give the movie a B-.

After all of that running around we chilled for a while, watched a little football, and just hung out. He's a good kisser: A, He's a gentleman: A+, He's very huggable: A, He's cute of course: A, He's interested in a real relationship (at least that's what he says and he seems to act that way): B (i'm still skeptical but that's just my faults), He has a nice body: A, He makes me smile: A, and the negatives are posted 2 post down so I wont repost.

I would say I was not disappointed this trip. He's still a little immature and we still have to work on our conversation topics. They are kinda simple right now. Nothing really thought provoking.

We'll see.

a friend's response to mississippi

friend's answers in red :-)

okay, so i'm thinking about mississippi and i'm thinking i'm just going to throw in the towel. a lot of times i just go with the flow and whatever. however, the more i'm trying to think of what all i need to know about this guy to make a decision the more its so obvious i'm treading shallow water.

i know i know i know it has been there all along, but my goodness when can i catch a break?

1. he said he graduated from southern miss with a degree in mechanical engineering after spending time at a community college. :- Ok. There is really nothing wrong with that, some folks take a while to get through school, various reasons, but at least he had the drive to finish. (he earns 1 points for that)


southern miss does not have a degree per se in mechanical engineering. its more so listed as industrial, construction etc and you go from there. true what he does may be considered mechanical engineering, but for me, this one is just kinda on the line. because he didnt just come right out and say it i dont guess.

2. he works contract jobs. he's from a small town called tallulah, ms. so i'm assuming there's not much there. he says he wants to leave and blah blah. okay, he's 34 he has a engineering degree. whats' the hold up? now i have had a few friends who have had a hard time finding engineering jobs but he's been out like 5 years. so?? Ok. Small town, maybe not a lot of well paying jobs, and you have to wait for ol’ man Jenkins to retire before there is an opening. but at least he had the drive to find legal employment (he earns 1 points for that)


3. major red flag: he lives with his parents. y? here's his story, his parents gave him a house, but he is on the road the majority of the time with various jobs so he gave it to his sister when she got married. hmmmm. my question: whats up with the apt on your own? Dude if I could have lived with my folks just a little bit longer and save some cake!!! Please some folks just like being home. But you are right he should want to be on his own unless he needs to be there for his parents (0 points)

4. he drives a $50,000 car so he says ( i dont know what it is i never ask cuz 1 i dont really care 2 bullsnit), plus he has 2 other vehicles (yawn, cough, whatever) yo ace in yo mama house 1. r u paying bills, 2. y 3. u still acting like a kid 3. there's no computer in the house (he mentioned...the friends house he goes to use the computer..my goodness *eyes rolling mouf twisted* ...the simple things) Heck you throw a few options on a ford and it could run you 50k and why do you need 3 cars if you can only drive one at a time? 1 Paying bills I’m sure he is, 2 Y because his momma would bust him in his head if he didn’t 3 kid, does he act like a kid? 4. computer well that depends on his living situation you know to some ol’ folks the computer is the work of the devil, and momma nem might only have the one dial up phone line so he can’t be using that. But (if you need a computer you should at least get your own Laptop and go find a t-mobile hot spot at Starbucks (-3 point)

okay, the question remains. y am i driving to memphis this weekend to meet a 34 yo who lives with his mama and cares more about the fact he drives a nice car and works out everyday than he does about building something for himself. (-3 points for you) Why are you driving there, are things that bad. He gets (1 point) for working out everyday but -2 for thinking his car is that important

PLEASE SEND THE BULLDOZER TO MY HOUSE ON Saturday MORNING TO STOP ME FROM DRIVING 200 + MILES FOR THIS

okay, this is what i'm going to do. tonight i'm bringing up the living witcho mama stuff and paying bills. i just met him last month. would i be outta order for asking those type of questions? heck no it doesnt matter guys ask for sex on day one as if. so nothing i ask should be considered outta order no matter when i ask especially if i ask it up front to set/change the tone. Yes it’s totally within reason to ask him. And then let me know what he says. You get 1 point for asking


Bottom line because of this situation you both are at -2. So I would hold off on the drive down unless you have other business to handle in Tallulah, MS. And just get to know this cat over the phone a little better

The new guy. Questions.

okay, so i'm thinking about mississippi and i'm thinking i'm just going to throw in the towel. a lot of times i just go with the flow and whatever. however, the more i'm trying to think of what all i need to know about this guy to make a decision the more its so obvious i'm treading shallow water.

i know i know i know it has been there all along, but my goodness when can i catch a break?

1. he said he graduated from southern miss with a degree in mechanical engineering after spending time at a community college. :-

southern miss does not have a degree per se in mechanical engineering. its more so listed as industrial, construction etc and you go from there. true what he does may be considered mechanical engineering, but for me, this one is just kinda on the line. because he didnt just come right out and say it i dont guess.

2. he works contract jobs. he's from a small town called tallulah, ms. so i'm assuming there's not much there. he says he wants to leave and blah blah. okay, he's 34 he has a engineering degree. whats' the hold up? now i have had a few friends who have had a hard time finding engineering jobs but he's been out like 5 years. so??

3. major red flag: he lives with his parents. y? here's his story, his parents gave him a house, but he is on the road the majority of the time with various jobs so he gave it to his sister when she got married. hmmmm. my question: whats up with the apt on your own?

4. he drives a $50,000 car so he says ( i dont know what it is i never ask cuz 1 i dont really care 2 bullsnit), plus he has 2 other vehicles (yawn, cough, whatever) yo ace in yo mama house 1. r u paying bills, 2. y 3. u still acting like a kid 3. there's no computer in the house (he mentioned...the friends house he goes to use the computer..my goodness *eyes rolling mouf twisted* ...the simple things)

okay, the question remains. y am i driving to memphis this weekend to meet a 34 yo who lives with his mama and cares more about the fact he drives a nice car and works out everyday than he does about building something for himself.

PLEASE SEND THE BULLDOZER TO MY HOUSE ON Saturday MORNING TO STOP ME FROM DRIVING 200 + MILES FOR THIS

okay, this is what i'm going to do. tonight i'm bringing up the living witcho mama stuff and paying bills. i just met him last month. would i be outta order for asking those type of questions? heck no it doesnt matter guys ask for sex on day one as if. so nothing i ask should be considered outta order no matter when i ask especially if i ask it up front to set/change the tone.

PRAISE BE GLORY TO GOD FOR THAT ONE !!!!!

PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA

THAT ONE IS PRESIDENT

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Florida (Barack won by 198,000),

Virginia (Barack won by 55,000),

Ohio (Barack won by 208,554),

Pennsylvania (Barack won by 600,558),

North Carolina (Barack won by 12,000).

and for good measure Indiana 23,000

THAT ONE had the most percentage of new voters votes, African Americans and young votes!!

THAT ONE received 62% of ages 18-29 votes

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BARACK OBAMA AMERICA'S FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT

VOTED FOR THE PEOPLE BY THE PEOPLE!!!

IT WAS TIME. MARTIN HAD THE DREAM GOD HAD THE PERFECT TIMING!!

Democrats now run the HOUSE AND THE SENATE it was time!!

BARACK, THAT ONE, caused these states to change from red to blue

NEVADA

COLORADO

NEW MEXICO

IOWA

OHIO

FLORIDA

VIRGINIA

Emotional Cutoff: Self-Evaluation

So, as a Social Worker I am bound by a strong code of ethics and values, as any awesome professional should be naturally. In reviewing my organizationally mandated Standards of Service, Social Justice, Dignity and Worth of Person, Importance of Human Relationships, Integrity, and Competence, it dawned on me that I have my own set of issues that I so greatly would like to resolve. This is not the first time I have come to this conclusion. While matriculating through UT’s college of Social Work program one of my wonderful professors or instructors (because they could have simply been an adjunct, I can’t remember) enlightened the class with the notion that what we so greatly give emotionally to others is exactly what we are in need of and seek for ourselves.
For instance, it brings me so much great joy and sense of fulfillment and worthiness to help people reach their next level. I LOVE being able to connect people or provide free assistance to get people to whatever it is they consider their dream goal, meaning, or mission in life. I love helping people find jobs. That is the ultimate pleasure, especially if that job leads to an even better job and steps toward the prize plateau. I enjoy connecting people to get a job done or get connections to get their foot in the door. This is what I so greatly enjoy. It truly fills my heart.
Hence part of my discovery on why I like doing this is because I enjoy making people happy. I enjoy seeing others succeed and fulfill a dream. The other part has to do with me wanting the same thing. I have never had a mentor, guidance, direction, someone to talk to and give me advice. I have longed for this connection all my life. It seems no one knows the answer, has time, or is willing to help. Everybody wants their own questions answered. They’re not interested in seeing what’s really going on in my world. They would rather maintain their self-derived conclusions of me or simply they are not interested or in large part self-absorbed.
Therefore I have unconscientiously taken it upon myself to be that one person who wants to have all the answers and be the go-to-person for straight forward advice, connections, directions, and a hand up even if it means stepping on my shoulders.
There is a deeper more pressing issue here dealing with the concept of emotionally cutting yourself off from what affects you negatively causing damage to impending relationships and stagnating possibilities of future relationships, socialization, and career growth; based on Murray Bowen’s theory of how the make-up, interaction, and connection within family systems affect an individual’s ability to socialize, communicate, and deal with life situations.
I do have a great sob story and am aware of what needs to be done to remedy this situation and possibly open more doors for me. However, I’m not really ready to deal with them right now simply because the last time I tried to deal with them the receiving party took the conversation completely out of context and hasn’t proved to be a great listener in any aspect thus cultivating my self-medication of total disconnection from any facet of care, concern, or emotional involvement i.e. my nonchalant attitude, wall of protection around my heart and feelings, and the apt ability to self-destruct when someone gets too close. I am present, I visit, I’m involved, but I have chosen to shut down that area of my life as if it didn’t matter. Until I read Bowen’s Theory regarding “Emotional Cutoff” I had no idea that’s what I had done and how this severely affects my entire life in every aspect.
Based on Bowen’s concept, “People reduce the tensions of family interaction by cutting off, but risk making their new relationships too important.” So in summation, my relationships: boyfriends, friend girls, social acquaintances, work interactions, etc all fail simply because I expect too much from them - have made them too important – because I cut myself off emotionally from my family and have never voiced my disappointment, feelings, dilemmas, etc. I basically live with the questions, defeat, ignorance, confusion, and pain because dealing with the core issue would open wounds or cause wounds that were never there because no one knew how I felt.
Knowing what I know now about why I am the way I am opens a door and gives me a way out but at the cost, in my opinion, of upsetting those involved. I’d rather just keep it to myself. Better to self-medicate and cover up than ruffle feathers. Maybe I’ll open up one day and lift this heavy burden but not today. Why burden someone else when you can just redirect that energy into helping people? Someone will come along one day to rescue me. Maybe it’ll be me.

Message from Tyler Perry

This is a very encouraging letter from Mr. Tyler Perry. It was so inspirational and right on time for me I thought I would repost and share it with everyone.

I’ve been reading a lot of messages on the message board about how the
opening of the studio affected you. Some of them brought tears to my eyes,
and what has stayed on my mind is that so many of us have stopped
dreaming. Listen to me, having no vision is death to your spirit. Why stop
dreaming, because one of them didn’t come true when you thought it
should? Why stop now? You’ve come so far. Listen to me, when I started
building this studio I wasn’t thinking about being the first black person
to do it. I wasn’t thinking about how many acres it is. I wasn’t thinking
about what it would feel like to own it. I was just following a dream. I
am no different from you. If you can make your mind line up with your
spirit man, and your dreams, then your dreams will become your reality. It
has to. It has no choice.

Now hear me here for a moment, if you will. I know that a lot of different
kinds of people from a lot of different backgrounds and faiths read this
email, but I want to share something with you, if you’ll indulge me for a
second. One of my favorite stories in the bible is of Joseph. Joseph had a
dream and his brothers wanted to kill him for dreaming. Sometimes when you
dream you will go through all kinds of hell to see it come to pass. I used
to tell people that I thought I could do plays and movies, and when I
would tell them they would get mad at me, talk about me and eventually try
to discourage me.

When I started to do plays in the beginning things started to fall apart
and these same people would laugh and say things like see, "I knew you
couldn’t do it." Where am I going with all of this you ask? Well right now
in these times in our country there are lots of you who are wondering how
you’re going to pay the mortgage or the rent, or feed your families. And
there are lots of you who have lost your houses and jobs and the very same
people that brought over the house warming gifts are laughing at you
now. I have been there. I UNDERSTAND THE HURT, but I’m here to tell you
don’t let it get you down. You know what you say to them? "SSSOOOOO!!!" I
admire and respect people so much that have a dream and go for it. Don’t
ever lose that GO FOR IT attitude because you will see your dreams come
true as long as you don’t operate in fear. After you’ve done all to stand,
stand some more.

So what happens when you had this big dream and it seems to be falling
apart? You seem to be losing it…what do you do? I look to this story of
Joseph, and you really should read this bible story. It’s fascinating. It
is so parallel to what is going on right now in this country. But this is
what happened. When his dream seemed to be falling apart he did something
awesome. The bible says Joseph dreamed another dream, and that is what I
wanted to talk to you about today. Dream another dream. If one thing
fails, try something else. Learn from your mistakes and try it again. So
what if it got hard for a season, it will only be that way for a season. I
cannot even begin to tell you all the times I failed, but every failure in
your life will bring your dream closer to you. I know that sounds crazy
but it’s so true. It’s okay to fail, now get up and keep dreaming. Don’t
stop dreaming because you may have lost something. When I was doing plays
for the first time, my dream was that 1,200 people would come and sell the
place out. Only 30 people came. It crushed me. But I didn’t stop. I kept
dreaming. I believed and dreamed all the way down to living in my car. But
I kept dreaming, and when I was at my lowest I would talk to
God. Sometimes all I could get out of my mouth was "Jesus help me," but
that was a prayer I prayed a lot. And you know what else I did? I got out
and encouraged myself. When I was homeless and sleeping in my car I would
hustle up enough gas money and drive down to the nicest neighborhood in
Atlanta where there were beautiful homes and I would dream and say "one
day." On Sundays, I would go to open houses. I would go to the dealerships
and test drive whatever kind of car I thought I wanted. Now I know these
are material things but you would be surprised as to what it would do to
help you see that all things in your dreams are possible. It’s hard to see
a dream come to pass, but if you believe, it has no choice.

Everywhere you look you see all of this talk about the economy and gloom
and doom. Turn that mess off. Stop letting that get into your spirit. Tune
it out, watch things that will encourage you. Listen to things that will
uplift you.

Now this part is to a certain group of people, not to everyone. This is
for the people who have been feeling like they are being led by God to do
something in these economic times that most people will think is
crazy. The ones who may not have a dime but are feeling like something
great is about to break free in their lives. You are so right if this is
what you’re feeling. I have a suggestion if you’ll take my humble advice
-- HAVE NO FEAR! ONLY BELIEVE! Give thanks for where you are. I know that
may be hard to do, but there is a liberty in being thankful. And lastly,
give, give, give. The reason I’ve fed thousands of families, paid rent and
taxes for the elderly, dug wells in Africa and helped establish churches
and built homes for poor families is because I know the power of giving.
You reap what you sew. If you want favor from God, sew it into someone
else.

God bless you and know that this too shall pass, and you will be so much
better when it does.

Tyler Perry



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