Tell em why you mad!

I'm so not in a good mood today and I have no one to talk to. everyone is so anal and look at me as the bad guy and over reactor.

I read a fb post this morning from a clinical therapist that emotional intelligence is the ability to use wisdom and react not out of emotion but out of sincere thought, facts, and discernment or some ish like that, rationalizing and separating the facts from what you feel at that moment. I have also been reading notes on linkedin from a social work therapist who specializes in anger management. he posted a question about the difference between emotional intelligence and the ability to effectively build and maintain positive relationships.

I use to react a lot out of emotion before I started college. everything was a personal attack and pissed me off. As I went through my college years I have grew considerably and am working even harder to grow in this area. I consider myself a more calm cool and collected individual. I consider the other person's viewpoint before I voice my concerns. Most of the time I don't say anything as it would only cause an uproar, feelings to be hurt, and chaos due to misunderstanding and lack of acceptance and respect for me on their part. In my considering both sides of the situation and trying to compromise and understand I don't feel anyone else listens with an open mind and try to understand things from my perspective. I"m definitely not saying I"m right about everything but at least give me a chance before passing judgement and running with preconceived notions.

With all that said, this ish has nothing to do with y I'm totally pissed off at this moment. LOL I'm highly p.o.'d because I am stupid broke. My financial management expertise is less than that of a kindergartner or homeless person rationing out his last 3 pennies. On top of that what really got under my skin this morning was a work email from another agency.

Part of my job is to filter outside request. In this latest request, the person asked for 2 years of data similar to what I gave her 2 years ago. Cool, no problem. I did it, although tedious and mundane, I put on hold what I was doing and completed the assignment. Once submitted I did not receive a thank you, I got it, blah blah or anything until today, 2 weeks later. And guess what she asked for, additional data. And she had the nerve to say that I gave her this "additional" information 2 years ago. This however is a lie! I did not give her that information 2 years ago. I did explain to her that what she was asking for was obtainable, but would not be submitted for another 4 weeks as I was in overload with my own assignments specific to my department. No, those were not my exact words, but it is pretty close. I smooth went off as professional and restrained as possible. LOL

And the part I'm pissed off about is not that she asked for additional data but that I spent my time trying to get something done for her putting my work on the back burner and she responds 2 weeks later. If it wasn't that important I would not have wasted my time. That's what has me flustered.

Needless to say this is how my day started and has since continued to snowball and no one is in their right mind enough for me to vent. Why? Because I'm the bad guy...the over-reactor. However when they react in a similar manner to similar situations its okay, it's allowed, its understood. This concept not just professionally but socially continues to irk me to the fullest extent of befuddlement. I have never and will never understand how my emotional intelligence is graded on a completely different scale.

And another thing, why in the hail don't people respond to email? If you receive an email needing a response why would you not respond? Is it because you don't want to get caught up in some bullish? Why would you have something to say that you can't back up or don't feel comfortable repeating? Because you fear retaliation or I spy-ism why does that stop you from saying hey, I received your email, I'll talk with you later about it or some ish like that. SAY SOMETHING! That's all I ask. It's not that hard. If you needed something you'd expect me to respond so why wouldn't you show me the same respect? Just Dumb! Another fact of life I do not understand. Don't respond just when you need something but let the other person know you heard them or something. Geesh!

THE END!

Are we praying in expectancy? Have your prayers been answered yet we failed to receive the answer

Sometimes we get caught up in praying and waiting that we forget to expect God to move. The reasons why we forget to expect God to move is because:

1. we have a lack of expectation due to past experiences. We inherently think that because God didn't answer us before, so we think, he's not going to answer us this time. That's just not true. Our past experiences or failures do not determine or dictate God's present or future course of action.

Many of the most difficult things that hinder our forward movement in life, are not the things that lay ahead of us, but those things that are behind us that distract us from what is happening in our lives now. We must expect got to answer our prayers and be on the look out for its manifestation in our lives, regardless of what happened yesterday. Hebrews 11:6 says that he who comes to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.

2. We have religious-ized prayer down to just something we have to do and an activity in saying we are a Christian. We lose sight of the fact that we are not calling on some mere human to answer our prayers, but the one and only omniscient, omnipresent, omnipotent God who is also our Father in heaven, hears all, sees all, and can do all. We fail to think that we are important to Him. We fail to see that he has ears and eyes for us no matter what the predicament.

If what we seek and believe Him for lines up with his Word then our situation has to line up with that truth. The situation is ever changing but the Word is not. When we decide to believe the Word over the situation then we will receive the manifestation of our prayers. The ones we pray for in expectancy of course. Prayer is not some religious activity but relational communication with God, one on one, just you and Him.

3. We feel that we are undeserving of an answer. We have feelings of in inadequacy or reprehension. We feel that we have not toiled, labored, or suffered enough to have earned an answer from God. There is something we did not do or we have not upheld our end of the bargain and therefore God will not answer me. I am undeserving of this response so I will not ask, I will not expect an answer, I will not seek. I will wait until I have gotten it all together before I go to him in prayer for what it is I am really truly seeking.

Matthew 7:11 says that If you, then, though you are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him! We are not slaves. We are his children, his daughters. He loves us and enjoys giving and providing for us. Just as children do wrong, their parents punish them, yet they never stop taking care of them and providing for them, so does God for us. It's okay to ask, seek, knock, and expect. He's there willing, able, and waiting.

And if you look around and see with your spiritual eyes God has already answered many of your prayers, you just haven't opened the door and received it.

~Pastor James C Matthews~
Dunamis Life Ministries
Dallas, TX
Author of:
"Saved but Stuck: 30 Days to Personal Revival"
"I'll Come When I Get Myself Together"
"My Situation is Not My Destination- Only Preparation"

Venting...I HATE SPRINT!

Sprint has really pissed me off with this "extra program charge" they tack on to my bill every month.  It's called an Automated Spending Limit and ppl who's credit is not up to par with Sprint payment standards gets put on this program. 

 

1. I knew nothing about the program until I looked at my bill in detail.  It was not explained to me that it would be added on to my bill as part of "cost for maintaining the account" wtf?

2. I have called them several times to give me the threshold or "rating bar" they use to determine who should be involuntarily placed in this 4.99 a month program.

3. All they could say was it was based on credit reports.  When I asked what is the determining element(s) they gave the credit companies to tag in reviewing my score, they could not answer.  They only responded with "It's based on reports from the credit bureaus."  Which in my opinion does not answer the question.

4. So I call the credit bureau and of course I do not get a person to speak with.  They only offer to send me a credit report.  Which by the way I do not need because I receive this report from all 3 bureaus every month along with my credit scores for $12.99 a month so I already know what is on my report. My point is what is Sprint's hand in placing me on this program for which I do not think I belong.  It's $4.99 plus tax a month that Sprint is charging me just to have an account with them as if they are doing me a favor. 

5. On top of that they stated that the fee can be waived if I give them access to my bank account for automatic payment.  What in the Hell?! Are they serious?  I do not give anyone access to my account on a regular basis.  Why in the Hell would I give it to Sprint.  They don't trust me so they charge me $4.99 a month. And I don't trust them because this is only one in several issues I have had with them since signing up for their service December 2009.  GOD I cant wait til my contract is up.  TOTAL RIP OFF!