So, as a Social Worker I am bound by a strong code of ethics and values, as any awesome professional should be naturally. In reviewing my organizationally mandated Standards of Service, Social Justice, Dignity and Worth of Person, Importance of Human Relationships, Integrity, and Competence, it dawned on me that I have my own set of issues that I so greatly would like to resolve. This is not the first time I have come to this conclusion. While matriculating through UT’s college of Social Work program one of my wonderful professors or instructors (because they could have simply been an adjunct, I can’t remember) enlightened the class with the notion that what we so greatly give emotionally to others is exactly what we are in need of and seek for ourselves.
For instance, it brings me so much great joy and sense of fulfillment and worthiness to help people reach their next level. I LOVE being able to connect people or provide free assistance to get people to whatever it is they consider their dream goal, meaning, or mission in life. I love helping people find jobs. That is the ultimate pleasure, especially if that job leads to an even better job and steps toward the prize plateau. I enjoy connecting people to get a job done or get connections to get their foot in the door. This is what I so greatly enjoy. It truly fills my heart.
Hence part of my discovery on why I like doing this is because I enjoy making people happy. I enjoy seeing others succeed and fulfill a dream. The other part has to do with me wanting the same thing. I have never had a mentor, guidance, direction, someone to talk to and give me advice. I have longed for this connection all my life. It seems no one knows the answer, has time, or is willing to help. Everybody wants their own questions answered. They’re not interested in seeing what’s really going on in my world. They would rather maintain their self-derived conclusions of me or simply they are not interested or in large part self-absorbed.
Therefore I have unconscientiously taken it upon myself to be that one person who wants to have all the answers and be the go-to-person for straight forward advice, connections, directions, and a hand up even if it means stepping on my shoulders.
There is a deeper more pressing issue here dealing with the concept of emotionally cutting yourself off from what affects you negatively causing damage to impending relationships and stagnating possibilities of future relationships, socialization, and career growth; based on Murray Bowen’s theory of how the make-up, interaction, and connection within family systems affect an individual’s ability to socialize, communicate, and deal with life situations.
I do have a great sob story and am aware of what needs to be done to remedy this situation and possibly open more doors for me. However, I’m not really ready to deal with them right now simply because the last time I tried to deal with them the receiving party took the conversation completely out of context and hasn’t proved to be a great listener in any aspect thus cultivating my self-medication of total disconnection from any facet of care, concern, or emotional involvement i.e. my nonchalant attitude, wall of protection around my heart and feelings, and the apt ability to self-destruct when someone gets too close. I am present, I visit, I’m involved, but I have chosen to shut down that area of my life as if it didn’t matter. Until I read Bowen’s Theory regarding “Emotional Cutoff” I had no idea that’s what I had done and how this severely affects my entire life in every aspect.
Based on Bowen’s concept, “People reduce the tensions of family interaction by cutting off, but risk making their new relationships too important.” So in summation, my relationships: boyfriends, friend girls, social acquaintances, work interactions, etc all fail simply because I expect too much from them - have made them too important – because I cut myself off emotionally from my family and have never voiced my disappointment, feelings, dilemmas, etc. I basically live with the questions, defeat, ignorance, confusion, and pain because dealing with the core issue would open wounds or cause wounds that were never there because no one knew how I felt.
Knowing what I know now about why I am the way I am opens a door and gives me a way out but at the cost, in my opinion, of upsetting those involved. I’d rather just keep it to myself. Better to self-medicate and cover up than ruffle feathers. Maybe I’ll open up one day and lift this heavy burden but not today. Why burden someone else when you can just redirect that energy into helping people? Someone will come along one day to rescue me. Maybe it’ll be me.
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Message from Tyler Perry
This is a very encouraging letter from Mr. Tyler Perry. It was so inspirational and right on time for me I thought I would repost and share it with everyone.
I’ve been reading a lot of messages on the message board about how the
opening of the studio affected you. Some of them brought tears to my eyes,
and what has stayed on my mind is that so many of us have stopped
dreaming. Listen to me, having no vision is death to your spirit. Why stop
dreaming, because one of them didn’t come true when you thought it
should? Why stop now? You’ve come so far. Listen to me, when I started
building this studio I wasn’t thinking about being the first black person
to do it. I wasn’t thinking about how many acres it is. I wasn’t thinking
about what it would feel like to own it. I was just following a dream. I
am no different from you. If you can make your mind line up with your
spirit man, and your dreams, then your dreams will become your reality. It
has to. It has no choice.
Now hear me here for a moment, if you will. I know that a lot of different
kinds of people from a lot of different backgrounds and faiths read this
email, but I want to share something with you, if you’ll indulge me for a
second. One of my favorite stories in the bible is of Joseph. Joseph had a
dream and his brothers wanted to kill him for dreaming. Sometimes when you
dream you will go through all kinds of hell to see it come to pass. I used
to tell people that I thought I could do plays and movies, and when I
would tell them they would get mad at me, talk about me and eventually try
to discourage me.
When I started to do plays in the beginning things started to fall apart
and these same people would laugh and say things like see, "I knew you
couldn’t do it." Where am I going with all of this you ask? Well right now
in these times in our country there are lots of you who are wondering how
you’re going to pay the mortgage or the rent, or feed your families. And
there are lots of you who have lost your houses and jobs and the very same
people that brought over the house warming gifts are laughing at you
now. I have been there. I UNDERSTAND THE HURT, but I’m here to tell you
don’t let it get you down. You know what you say to them? "SSSOOOOO!!!" I
admire and respect people so much that have a dream and go for it. Don’t
ever lose that GO FOR IT attitude because you will see your dreams come
true as long as you don’t operate in fear. After you’ve done all to stand,
stand some more.
So what happens when you had this big dream and it seems to be falling
apart? You seem to be losing it…what do you do? I look to this story of
Joseph, and you really should read this bible story. It’s fascinating. It
is so parallel to what is going on right now in this country. But this is
what happened. When his dream seemed to be falling apart he did something
awesome. The bible says Joseph dreamed another dream, and that is what I
wanted to talk to you about today. Dream another dream. If one thing
fails, try something else. Learn from your mistakes and try it again. So
what if it got hard for a season, it will only be that way for a season. I
cannot even begin to tell you all the times I failed, but every failure in
your life will bring your dream closer to you. I know that sounds crazy
but it’s so true. It’s okay to fail, now get up and keep dreaming. Don’t
stop dreaming because you may have lost something. When I was doing plays
for the first time, my dream was that 1,200 people would come and sell the
place out. Only 30 people came. It crushed me. But I didn’t stop. I kept
dreaming. I believed and dreamed all the way down to living in my car. But
I kept dreaming, and when I was at my lowest I would talk to
God. Sometimes all I could get out of my mouth was "Jesus help me," but
that was a prayer I prayed a lot. And you know what else I did? I got out
and encouraged myself. When I was homeless and sleeping in my car I would
hustle up enough gas money and drive down to the nicest neighborhood in
Atlanta where there were beautiful homes and I would dream and say "one
day." On Sundays, I would go to open houses. I would go to the dealerships
and test drive whatever kind of car I thought I wanted. Now I know these
are material things but you would be surprised as to what it would do to
help you see that all things in your dreams are possible. It’s hard to see
a dream come to pass, but if you believe, it has no choice.
Everywhere you look you see all of this talk about the economy and gloom
and doom. Turn that mess off. Stop letting that get into your spirit. Tune
it out, watch things that will encourage you. Listen to things that will
uplift you.
Now this part is to a certain group of people, not to everyone. This is
for the people who have been feeling like they are being led by God to do
something in these economic times that most people will think is
crazy. The ones who may not have a dime but are feeling like something
great is about to break free in their lives. You are so right if this is
what you’re feeling. I have a suggestion if you’ll take my humble advice
-- HAVE NO FEAR! ONLY BELIEVE! Give thanks for where you are. I know that
may be hard to do, but there is a liberty in being thankful. And lastly,
give, give, give. The reason I’ve fed thousands of families, paid rent and
taxes for the elderly, dug wells in Africa and helped establish churches
and built homes for poor families is because I know the power of giving.
You reap what you sew. If you want favor from God, sew it into someone
else.
God bless you and know that this too shall pass, and you will be so much
better when it does.
Tyler Perry
To respond to this message, please go to
http://www.tylerperry.com/messageboard
I’ve been reading a lot of messages on the message board about how the
opening of the studio affected you. Some of them brought tears to my eyes,
and what has stayed on my mind is that so many of us have stopped
dreaming. Listen to me, having no vision is death to your spirit. Why stop
dreaming, because one of them didn’t come true when you thought it
should? Why stop now? You’ve come so far. Listen to me, when I started
building this studio I wasn’t thinking about being the first black person
to do it. I wasn’t thinking about how many acres it is. I wasn’t thinking
about what it would feel like to own it. I was just following a dream. I
am no different from you. If you can make your mind line up with your
spirit man, and your dreams, then your dreams will become your reality. It
has to. It has no choice.
Now hear me here for a moment, if you will. I know that a lot of different
kinds of people from a lot of different backgrounds and faiths read this
email, but I want to share something with you, if you’ll indulge me for a
second. One of my favorite stories in the bible is of Joseph. Joseph had a
dream and his brothers wanted to kill him for dreaming. Sometimes when you
dream you will go through all kinds of hell to see it come to pass. I used
to tell people that I thought I could do plays and movies, and when I
would tell them they would get mad at me, talk about me and eventually try
to discourage me.
When I started to do plays in the beginning things started to fall apart
and these same people would laugh and say things like see, "I knew you
couldn’t do it." Where am I going with all of this you ask? Well right now
in these times in our country there are lots of you who are wondering how
you’re going to pay the mortgage or the rent, or feed your families. And
there are lots of you who have lost your houses and jobs and the very same
people that brought over the house warming gifts are laughing at you
now. I have been there. I UNDERSTAND THE HURT, but I’m here to tell you
don’t let it get you down. You know what you say to them? "SSSOOOOO!!!" I
admire and respect people so much that have a dream and go for it. Don’t
ever lose that GO FOR IT attitude because you will see your dreams come
true as long as you don’t operate in fear. After you’ve done all to stand,
stand some more.
So what happens when you had this big dream and it seems to be falling
apart? You seem to be losing it…what do you do? I look to this story of
Joseph, and you really should read this bible story. It’s fascinating. It
is so parallel to what is going on right now in this country. But this is
what happened. When his dream seemed to be falling apart he did something
awesome. The bible says Joseph dreamed another dream, and that is what I
wanted to talk to you about today. Dream another dream. If one thing
fails, try something else. Learn from your mistakes and try it again. So
what if it got hard for a season, it will only be that way for a season. I
cannot even begin to tell you all the times I failed, but every failure in
your life will bring your dream closer to you. I know that sounds crazy
but it’s so true. It’s okay to fail, now get up and keep dreaming. Don’t
stop dreaming because you may have lost something. When I was doing plays
for the first time, my dream was that 1,200 people would come and sell the
place out. Only 30 people came. It crushed me. But I didn’t stop. I kept
dreaming. I believed and dreamed all the way down to living in my car. But
I kept dreaming, and when I was at my lowest I would talk to
God. Sometimes all I could get out of my mouth was "Jesus help me," but
that was a prayer I prayed a lot. And you know what else I did? I got out
and encouraged myself. When I was homeless and sleeping in my car I would
hustle up enough gas money and drive down to the nicest neighborhood in
Atlanta where there were beautiful homes and I would dream and say "one
day." On Sundays, I would go to open houses. I would go to the dealerships
and test drive whatever kind of car I thought I wanted. Now I know these
are material things but you would be surprised as to what it would do to
help you see that all things in your dreams are possible. It’s hard to see
a dream come to pass, but if you believe, it has no choice.
Everywhere you look you see all of this talk about the economy and gloom
and doom. Turn that mess off. Stop letting that get into your spirit. Tune
it out, watch things that will encourage you. Listen to things that will
uplift you.
Now this part is to a certain group of people, not to everyone. This is
for the people who have been feeling like they are being led by God to do
something in these economic times that most people will think is
crazy. The ones who may not have a dime but are feeling like something
great is about to break free in their lives. You are so right if this is
what you’re feeling. I have a suggestion if you’ll take my humble advice
-- HAVE NO FEAR! ONLY BELIEVE! Give thanks for where you are. I know that
may be hard to do, but there is a liberty in being thankful. And lastly,
give, give, give. The reason I’ve fed thousands of families, paid rent and
taxes for the elderly, dug wells in Africa and helped establish churches
and built homes for poor families is because I know the power of giving.
You reap what you sew. If you want favor from God, sew it into someone
else.
God bless you and know that this too shall pass, and you will be so much
better when it does.
Tyler Perry
To respond to this message, please go to
http://www.tylerperry.com/messageboard
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Cabbage Soup Diet
Okay so my fat butt is trying for the upteenth time to loose weight. I only have 40 pounds to go so it shouldnt be too hard right? yeah..okay. So I reluctantly gave in and I am taking on a diet program. It only last 7 days which is awesome enough for me. googled cabbage soup diet and found some rules i think sound easy enough. Then I had to find a cabbage soup recipe because i didnt really like theirs. it was too bland. AllRecipes.com is my fav site for help. The recipe had rave reviews so I tried it. of course i added my own extra spices for more flavor. YUM YUM GOOD!
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
The SHoebox
THE SHOEBOX.
A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years.
They had shared everything. They had talked about everything.
They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little
old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had
cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but
one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said
she would not recover.
In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took
down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside
She agreed that it was time that he should know what was
in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls
and a stack of money totaling $95,000.
He asked her about the contents. 'When we were to be married,'
she said, ' my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage
was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you,
I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.'
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two
precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two
times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with
happiness.
'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the doll, but what about all of this money?
Where did it come from?'
'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.'
A Prayer.. .....
Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man;
Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods;
Because Lord, if I pray for Strength,
I'll beat him to death, because I don't have time to crochet.
A man and woman had been married for more than 60 years.
They had shared everything. They had talked about everything.
They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little
old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had
cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.
For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but
one day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said
she would not recover.
In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took
down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside
She agreed that it was time that he should know what was
in the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls
and a stack of money totaling $95,000.
He asked her about the contents. 'When we were to be married,'
she said, ' my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage
was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you,
I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.'
The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears. Only two
precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two
times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with
happiness.
'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the doll, but what about all of this money?
Where did it come from?'
'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.'
A Prayer.. .....
Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man;
Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods;
Because Lord, if I pray for Strength,
I'll beat him to death, because I don't have time to crochet.
Secret Lives of Bees (review)
Saw a sneak peek of the secret lives of bees. TOTALLY GREAT MOVIE!
Queen, Dakota fanning, alicia keys and j hud did a way awesome job. so did Sophie Okonedo but i dont know her that well, i'm sure she's been in other movies.
The story is set in the 60s when the civil rights bill was being signed and blacks were finally allowed to vote. set in south carolina. there are a few scenes we're the black audience cringed but its funny and it makes the movie.
and to think of the irony. obama racked up south carolina support in the primaries. HA! is this movie something.
1. Dakota is so my favorite child star
2. the queen is working hard making that paper no matter what. multiple streams of income
3. will and jada produced this movie. my goodness! the did a great job.
4. i would purchase this movie when it comes out on dvd... meaning it was a really good movie
5. yes i did cry during the movie, but i also laughed
6. no there were no catch phrases i picked up on but i'm sure you guys will.
7. oh yeah, jennifer even had some dry funny lines.
all the sisters are named after spring and summer months. April, may June, and August. (dont ask what happened to July i have no idea haha)
Queen, Dakota fanning, alicia keys and j hud did a way awesome job. so did Sophie Okonedo but i dont know her that well, i'm sure she's been in other movies.
The story is set in the 60s when the civil rights bill was being signed and blacks were finally allowed to vote. set in south carolina. there are a few scenes we're the black audience cringed but its funny and it makes the movie.
and to think of the irony. obama racked up south carolina support in the primaries. HA! is this movie something.
1. Dakota is so my favorite child star
2. the queen is working hard making that paper no matter what. multiple streams of income
3. will and jada produced this movie. my goodness! the did a great job.
4. i would purchase this movie when it comes out on dvd... meaning it was a really good movie
5. yes i did cry during the movie, but i also laughed
6. no there were no catch phrases i picked up on but i'm sure you guys will.
7. oh yeah, jennifer even had some dry funny lines.
all the sisters are named after spring and summer months. April, may June, and August. (dont ask what happened to July i have no idea haha)
Sunday, October 12, 2008
My New Music for September - October
T.I. - "Paper Trail"
so love T.I., he can do no wrong...sorta. I have to admit I did put him to the side when he got in trouble with those guns and was placed on house arrest etc. However once he started pluggin his new cd I could no longer harbor that hurt in my heart for such a creative and brilliant star as T.I. My fav pic on this cd : #3 "Ready for Whatever" May fav line in this song: "If you dont understand that then you dont understand English homeboy and I'm done talking"
that is so hot to me for some reason. So raw and real. Love T.I.
Jennifer Hudson - " Jennifer Hudson"
J Hud is soo my gurl! She's beautiful, full figured, full lips, gorgeous skin, young, outstanding voice, beautiful smile, and free spirit. Like my other full figured gurl Tocarra, Jennifer has definitely made a name for herself and I totally admire that. They went against the grain and won. The 1st day I tried to purchase this cd I could not find it. Uber Kudos for Jennifer. It was after the release week so I ended up paying a higher price for the cd than I would have, but who cares. It was so worth it. Fav song: "Spotlight" by far the best song on the cd in my opinion.
Anthony David - "Acey Duecy"
Eric Benet - "Love and Life
Joe - "Joe Thomas, New Man"
Be back later to comment on each cd :-)
so love T.I., he can do no wrong...sorta. I have to admit I did put him to the side when he got in trouble with those guns and was placed on house arrest etc. However once he started pluggin his new cd I could no longer harbor that hurt in my heart for such a creative and brilliant star as T.I. My fav pic on this cd : #3 "Ready for Whatever" May fav line in this song: "If you dont understand that then you dont understand English homeboy and I'm done talking"
that is so hot to me for some reason. So raw and real. Love T.I.
Jennifer Hudson - " Jennifer Hudson"
J Hud is soo my gurl! She's beautiful, full figured, full lips, gorgeous skin, young, outstanding voice, beautiful smile, and free spirit. Like my other full figured gurl Tocarra, Jennifer has definitely made a name for herself and I totally admire that. They went against the grain and won. The 1st day I tried to purchase this cd I could not find it. Uber Kudos for Jennifer. It was after the release week so I ended up paying a higher price for the cd than I would have, but who cares. It was so worth it. Fav song: "Spotlight" by far the best song on the cd in my opinion.
Anthony David - "Acey Duecy"
Eric Benet - "Love and Life
Joe - "Joe Thomas, New Man"
Be back later to comment on each cd :-)
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
HEEEEEEERE THEY R!!!!
I know these are kinda plain, but i had to start out simple with my 1st pair of monkeys! 
yep that's my big foot!
These are the cherry design (CHERRY POP) and I chose the brown ones because 1. they were out of my size in the red cherries :-( and 2. brown is easy to match.
Also, i read different reviews on Naughty Monkey shoes and how to purchase them for your size, because this is the 1st time I have ever purchased shoes on the web. some ppl said go a size larger some said they are true to size. The majority said true to size. I did my reg size which is 9 for the cherries and 9.5 for the green strips. AAAnd by the way 9 IS the average shoe size for a woman not 6 like that of olden years :-)
The 9.5 are too long and the 9's are a lil tight (yes this was after work so it was late afternoon (primetime for trying on shoes)) and i think i should have reversed the size because the cherries have a strap and I could have gotten away with a bigger size.
The 9.5 are too long and the 9's are a lil tight (yes this was after work so it was late afternoon (primetime for trying on shoes)) and i think i should have reversed the size because the cherries have a strap and I could have gotten away with a bigger size.
No i'm not sending them back. i could , but i hate returning stuff. I'll just put something in it. Or i could give them to my friend for her birthday or christmas hahaha hmmm.
The next pair (SIDE SWIPED) are also pretty normal I guess, but i kinda pictured them peeking out from under some really hot jeans (as if i had some that hot). I thought the strap across the front added a lil something to the shoe. I chose green because I am SOO lovein green right now and have been dying for some green shoes, as well as red ones, and yellow ones, and orange ones, and ...
yep that's my big foot! 
Now back to amazon.com to find more oooooooo!!!1
Naughty Monkey!
HAHAHA Get your head out the gutter! :-) I'm talking about shoes lol !!
I am so not a fashionista or namebrand worshiper but I way totally love these shoes just because of the name AND they come in fun colors, fabrics, and designs! I get my 1st TWO (2) pair today YEA! I can't wait. I ordered them from Amazon.com because they are like in the 80s and up but the 'zon has them on sale for the low 19.99 :-) now that's my kinda bargin shopping. I've searched Zappos and had decided to purchase from them until i learned better!
NOw one day I will come up off some funds and spend a few pennies on some way freash new off the showing machine Naughty Monkeys, but for now I will enjoy the luxury of 17.99 and 19.99.
pics of me and my new shoes later :-)
I am so not a fashionista or namebrand worshiper but I way totally love these shoes just because of the name AND they come in fun colors, fabrics, and designs! I get my 1st TWO (2) pair today YEA! I can't wait. I ordered them from Amazon.com because they are like in the 80s and up but the 'zon has them on sale for the low 19.99 :-) now that's my kinda bargin shopping. I've searched Zappos and had decided to purchase from them until i learned better!
NOw one day I will come up off some funds and spend a few pennies on some way freash new off the showing machine Naughty Monkeys, but for now I will enjoy the luxury of 17.99 and 19.99.
pics of me and my new shoes later :-)
Monday, October 6, 2008
Looking for a trip to Vegas September 09!
Because I have nothing to say at the moment and I wanted to post PLUS, I thought I looked cute on this day. I did my hair myself...meaning I washed, conditioned, braided, and styled it to what I thought was the "in" do for this season. I've always wanted to find a way to wear my hair down and wavy curly but it would always look good before I leave the house but way horrible by the time I arrive at work. My hair would loose so much shine and moisture the only way I could keep the wavy curls was to put it in a ponytail and clipped close to my head. On this day, I actually made it through the day. However, there is more work to be done. I am still missing that moisture and frizz-free luxury my for real wavy curly counterparts so enjoy. In my late afternoon scavenger hunt I purchased
* 2 bottles of Smooth 'N Shine Therapy™ - Repair Xtreme - Vitamin & Mineral Leave In Treatment - .63 fl oz (18ml) 2@ $2.00
* 1 packet of Smooth 'N Shine Therapy™ - Repair Xtreme - Sixty Second Critical Repair - 1.7 fl oz (50ml) Packet $3.00
and
* 1 bottle of Paul Mitchell's Foaming Pommade $13.00
Trying to get this hair to obey is an all night escapade. But I have decided I need a change and am way past due for something new in ALL aspects of my life. This trying to look cute thing is expensive and a lot of work. I see now why women are always asking guys for money. Maintenance rather high or low cost a pretty penny. I am not the one to depend on anyone for anything so if I want to run with the big girls I've got to get on my big girl grind and do it for myself. And being that I am putting in all this work I WILL NOT be lowering my standards from some half ass man! I would rather be single than foolin around with some nonsense!
Oh yeah and I also purchased 2 new ceramic curling irons totalling approximately $40. Now if I can just figure out how to look cute and maintain my gorgeous locks while working out 4-6 days a week all would be well with the world. 145 here I come!
Dumped for No Reason
So, I'm reading a cosmo article via Yahoo! about y guys dump you when they really like you. As you can imagine, this article took me by surprise. I kinda knew it was true but for someone to actually put it out there makes a girl happy. Happy to know I'm not crazy. Guys really are stupid. haha
Here's the link to the article. Stupid guys!
Enjoy!
Now the question is, Have I ever been dumped for any of the reasons listed? I'm sure I have. If not dumped at least forced to do the dumping. Hmmmm let me think.......
the last boyfriend, well boyfriend-ish because we really didn't "date" or go out or get to the point where we called ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend (come to think of it, I have not been on a date date in years. Do ppl even do that anymore? Or did i even realize it was a date? Is hanging out, going out to eat, just chilin considered a date?) I think he was and continues to NOT BE READY for a relationship so he continues to put up a front and pulls away or will not allow himself to get close because he is extremely afraid of getting hurt. The sad part is I would do anything but hurt him. I've told him this a million times. We 1st "dated" in 06. so it's an on again off again thing. However, this last time was truly the last time for me. He's too tempermental. Love is a hard thing to achieve, handle, let go of, manuver, and except. Maybe one day he'll be ready. It just wont be with me. I'm done.
Here's the link to the article. Stupid guys!
Enjoy!
Now the question is, Have I ever been dumped for any of the reasons listed? I'm sure I have. If not dumped at least forced to do the dumping. Hmmmm let me think.......
the last boyfriend, well boyfriend-ish because we really didn't "date" or go out or get to the point where we called ourselves boyfriend/girlfriend (come to think of it, I have not been on a date date in years. Do ppl even do that anymore? Or did i even realize it was a date? Is hanging out, going out to eat, just chilin considered a date?) I think he was and continues to NOT BE READY for a relationship so he continues to put up a front and pulls away or will not allow himself to get close because he is extremely afraid of getting hurt. The sad part is I would do anything but hurt him. I've told him this a million times. We 1st "dated" in 06. so it's an on again off again thing. However, this last time was truly the last time for me. He's too tempermental. Love is a hard thing to achieve, handle, let go of, manuver, and except. Maybe one day he'll be ready. It just wont be with me. I'm done.
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