“HAVING A HEART FOR MAN”

On Friday, February 19th 2010 my 39 year old cousin passed away from an aortic aneurysm. In his eulogy on Saturday, February 27th, the pastor repeatedly stated, “Greg was a good man!” He died of natural causes, not by violence or crime but of natural cause, a huge feat to accomplish being a black man anywhere in America. The minister wanted to point out two things. One, he was a good man in that his family and friends loved him. He took care of people and would do anything to help someone out. He always put others before himself. And two, he was not out in the streets provoking mayhem, gambling, dealing drugs, fighting, involved in gangs, or in prison. He was a good man.


At the funeral his friends almost numbered the amount of family members present. His friends loved him so much they paid for the repast to be catered and held at a local café. And because they loved and respected him beyond measure, they extended a hand of shared fatherhood to his only teenage son who is now left without a biological father but plenty of father figures to carry on the torch.
The day before Greg passed; he and his friends were planning a trip to Tennessee from St. Louis to bring his dad a truck. This is a truck Greg purchased for his dad simply because dad said he needed one. Greg purchased the truck, put it in the shop, and was now planning to make the 4.5 hour drive to Tennessee to deliver the truck to his dad who moved to Tennessee to take care of his ailing mother. The trip was planned for Saturday. Greg passed on that Friday. Greg’s friends informed his dad that they would still bring the truck to Tennessee as planned because they treasured Greg and would do anything for someone who has done everything for anybody.


That’s what love is to me. That’s what true friendship is to me. That is what I want my dash to say about me when I am laid to rest. What have you done for someone else? What have you done to change someone’s life, add value to their life? Friends are people we choose to be in our life. If we are chosen to be someone’s friend, it is because we have added something to that person’s life. We are here to enhance one another not tear down and destroy.


When I leave this earth I would like people to say I was a good woman. I gave my all to help someone else. I helped to make them a better person. If I have not accomplished that then I have not fully completed my assignment.
In Bishop Walker’s tweet devotional on Sunday February 28th he referenced Galatians 6:7. You will always reap more than you sow therefore; sow whatever you need more of.


If you need more love, honesty, friendship, and trust then perhaps that is what you need to sow more of. Be a person after God’s own heart. It doesn’t mean we have to be God but we should make more efforts to be like Him.
And that’s Tam’s 2 Cents.

RIP Gregory Peete, Sr
July 17, 1970 – February 19, 2010
“A good man”

A Black Man's Smile

There’s nothing like a black man’s smile.
His love is so powerful, so enduring, so captivating,
So humble, so loving, longing, waiting, wanting,
For your love to grab him and take control.
Embrace his face, his smile, his love, hopes,
Wishes, dreams, desires.
I love my black man’s smile.

inspired by JC's smile

Stupid Pet Tricks!

I miss my baby. He acts so much like a child it's ridiculous. He throws temper tantrums when I don't call or respond to every message. If he is the last one to call or text and I don't say anything back he wont speak to me until I say something to him. He thinks we should keep track and take turns responding. He is so stupid. I'm crazy about him and for some reason I feel this is the best I can do as far as a long term relationship with someone I truly want to be with but I'm really ready to call it quits.

I shouldn't feel so frustrated and have to deal with such idiocy in a relationship. I'm better off just being by myself and wishing I had someone to be with. Like the the one before I just have to cut my ties, close my heart, and let it go. Just because I love him doesn't mean we should be together. I've given him way too many chances. He's just stupid and childish. Besides that he's made it clear that he doesn't want to get married so what's the point of hanging on anyway if we don't want the same thing.

Lawd! Lawd! Lawd! Yhy are you playing with me?! As I'm typing this fool just text me! I'm so freakin confused. Here's his smart-ass text "Jus sayin gdmornin" This fool ain't said shit to me all beautiful weekend. Who the fuck he been with all weekend? I've had dilemmas to deal with all weekend. I needed someone to vent and talk to. I thought that's what boyfriends are for and he's no where to be found. Not there when I need him.

What should I do? Should I jump and respond? Should I wait and respond later today? Should I even respond and all and go ahead with my decision to completely drop his ass for good?

It's 8am. I think I'll pass on the responding. Cuz if that's all his dumb ass has to say is good freakin morning after not speaking to me all damn weekend for some childish-ass reason then fuck him.

He has 4 children by 4 different women

He has 4 children by 4 different women. And I'm looking to be number 5! Why???? I have no idea. Blame it on the laws of stupid attraction. Women are destined to be go-getters and for all the wrong reasons when it comes to men.

I'm stupidly attracted to this beautiful dark chocolate man who oozes so much sex appeal to me. All I have to see is the crook of his smile. No joke! I truly understand what Jill Scott meant in your provative man songs now and the sceen on Tyler perry's Why Did I Ge Married when the camera slowly glides over Troy's mouth mmm mmm mmm! That is so how I feel about this man.

When I wake up in the morning sometime all I see is his smile...visions of his smile in my head. Unfortunately he doesn't spend the night every night. Only once or twice a month.

One morning I woke up and I smiled so hard. It was unbelieveable. That's when I realized I had to love this guy. Why else would I wake up feeling all warm and wonderful just from seeing a vision of his smile and nothing else.

I had to text him that morning and tell him "I'm happy with you. Thoughts of you make me smile." Honey (smh) That man is nice.

The crazy part is, he hasn't done anything special for me. Nothing fancy, we havent even gone out on a date. Well not what we call a typical date. No movies, no dinner, no outing, etc. However I have rode with him to pick up and his son, whom he let me meet for the 1st time. I have also met his family whom he invited me to during a cookout celebration 2 hours away. So, I don't think I should really be complaining. I have been introduced to the family and one of the 4 children. That's suppose to carry a lot of weight...right.

Here I am feigning at work all day long just for an eye spy of this man. I like to look at him. His lips make me want to kiss him all the time. His cheekbones make me smile. His skin complexion makes me melt and his build makes me horny (yeah, u knew that was coming lol).

Another dissociative aspect of him is his strong passion for hood ghetto music and movies. lol! Nothing else will do. He loves it to the core of his being. He does not want to know anything else. He is familiar with regular r&b and what not but there's nothing more meaningful to him than stupid gangsta/ghetto rap and lame hood movies. hahahaha

We must take the good with the bad. Besides, who am I to stand in judgement? A 33 year old virgin with no children, no prospects, and no desire for the like until recently. I'm content but desiring of a worthwhile relationship. Relationships in the past have only been testing grounds for what I do and dont' want. this man is everything I do and don't want and I like it :-)

Things can get a little lonely trying to love a thug, ex-thug, semi-thug, cleaned-up corporate thug. The price we pay with our hearts to have what the flesh wants and the heart thinks it desires and the mind doing nothing about it.

Do it like this girl Not that!

So, here's another clean-up item from my inbox. My preacher had a tell all session about what men are looking for and what women can do to get them and how we turn them off. Because I don't want to forget anything I decided to post them here. I think I have most of them down pat. It's the self-esteem issue that keeps me single. That I am well aware of and trying to work on everyday. Its hard. There are many years of torcher and pain to shift through. Hopefully I'll get over it one day. Until then..

What Men Want
1. Men want compliments ( they need affirmation)
2. Men want women to not let themselves go (What you did to get him, you need to continue to keep him) Never get TOO comfortable with your man.
3. Men want you to have a life ( he doesn’t want you under him ALL the time)
4. Men don’t want you to be a doormat
5. He REALLY doesn’t want to know all of your past ( Pro. 6: 32 )
6. I Love You is not just in words. Men are not verbal people, they show with their actions)
7. Nothing wrong sometimes mean Nothing is Really Wrong
8. All Black Shoes look the same
9. How was your day?Is a simple question with a simple answer.
10. Men want women to start initiating Sex.

What Annoy Men
1. Freebies ( men paying for EVERYTHANG) some women only call men for free meals and movies

2. Tired of Whining
3. Backstabbing, Messy or Criticizing other women ( especially Christian Sisters)
4. Pigeoning ( bringing your girls everywhere ** and making him pay for every body **)
5. Abusing Generosity ( only call him when you need a favor )
6. Interruption of great sports moments or events (March Madness, Superbowl, etc.)
7. Playing Hard to Get
8. Using Sex as a Weapon
9. Blaming All Men ( for past relationships issues)
10. Closing the Deal too soon ( moving too fast)

3 Misc. S’s

1. Self Esteem – men can pick up on a woman’s self esteem. A man with ill intentions will prey on a woman with low self esteem because she is seeking him to affirm what others (male figures * dad* in her life) did not. Hence how women can get caught up in abusive relationships (verbal, emotional, physical, psychological, etc.). A woman must know her own self value and self worth before trying to love some one else.

2. Sex – men want women to do more that missionary position. They want women to be more adventurous (try new things) and desirable in the bedroom. They also want women to try oral sex. A conversation need to be held before marriage about what both desire sexually to for compatibility. The bedroom for husband and wife is undefiled, but use wisdom on where to cross the line.

3. Sister’s Keeper – Be your sister’s keeper. Hold her accountable ( she holds you accountable also). Women need to lift each other up and respect the God given gifts and talents in each other. Women don’t need to be envious f other women, what God has for you, it is for you and no one else.

Ask Rick these questions

Been away for a while. Haven't had much to say, been a little busy with work, haven't really had the urge to blog, but I'm back :-) Miss me???? I know I know lol!

I was cleaning up my email box trying to figure out what to delete and what to act on. I hate a full inbox. I've been leaving things in the inbox because I need to act on them. Thing is I'm like a month behind and its killin me.

Here is one of the 'act on' items I'm deleting. I started semi-dating this guy and I wanted to do it right by asking him the right questions and really getting to know him. However, I ditched him before I could really start the blog. Truth be told I dont think he was very much interested. Orginally I was going to use a psuedomnam but since we deleted each other's number I'll use his real name. It's pretty common so only he and I will know exactly who he is :-)

His name is Rick and here are the list of questions compiled by one of my friends that should be asked in the beginning of any relationship. As you can see, I only got a few of the questions answered in general conversation. We didn't really get to sit down and talk. We met at the gym once and that's about it. I think he had another life but he said it was just him playing basketball (young). I think he's in his 20's. I met him through blackpeoplemeet.com Not really my cup of tea, but he was kinda cute on screen. Not as cute in person but...oh well. On to better things.

1. Are you married? No divorced? No separated? No
2. Do you have any children? No
3. Have you ever been arrested? if so, why and for how long were you locked up?
4. Where do you work? A Storage Company (Can't remember if he told me the name or not)
5. Do you have a working vehicle? Yes
6. How long ago was your last relationship?
7. Why did it end?
8. Do you ever plan on getting married?
9. When do you plan on settling down?
10. Do you want children?
11. What do you want from me?

Lovin is Hard

So, I'm chillin at the house all day long watching episode after episode of "The Game". It's hypnotic. I truly did not mean to waste my entire free day plopped down in the lazy boy 4 hours a day. If I can remember when I started watching the 1st show. And there were no commercials from one show to the next so there was no time to get distracted and move on to something else. I was hooked literally all day long from A.M. to 6pm when 106 & park came on. Then of course it was easy to let go. I was so into it because I have not seen the game in years so I am so lost on all the episodes. The last show I saw was when Kelly moved out and divorced Jason. I have no idea how that all ended or what day the regular shows come on.
I'm hoping BET doesn't mess up the chemistry.
So, the reason why I'm blogging is because one of the episodes was about Tasha and her breaking up with Coach Kenny. It was all about her attitude and "black girl sass". She mentioned that 47% of African American women do not get married after 30. That was a sad statistic and I'm not really feeling that it has anything to do with "black girl sass". However it has me thinking more about the idea of getting married.

For the longest I haven't really felt the urge to get married or even have a boyfriend. Nothing more than a "hang out" guy with perks. I did say perks not benefits. I think I've had enough of the sex routine. I can have sex any given day of the week. That's a lost cause for me. Not a really big "need" per se. I don't know if I'm really ready for a full blooded relationship. Every relationship I'm in I seem to loose myself and stop focusing on what it is I need to do. No on can get ahead at that rate. I'll always be needy and whiny because I think I'm not getting enough attention. The problem is I should give myself that attention and stop relying on someone else to fill that void. So what I've never been close with my parents or siblings. That shouldn't be the end of to the possibilities of me having a decent worthwhile healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex.

Love is hard and I seem to keep fighting it and running away from the possibility of meeting Mr. Right. I'm so sure I can stop all hurt from coming my way if I put brick wall between me and the rest of the universe. So what if that only pushes people away. At least then I want be hurt and everyone will be a okay.

Hmmm, that sounds like a pretty lonely place to be for the rest of my life. Yeah, but I'm semi-cool for right now. I'm not really feeling a relationship. It's always the wrong guys that approach me instead of someone I was really interested in and desired. How do I attract and keep those guys? That's where the dilemma lies.

So what would I be interested in? Let's imagine my dream guy. At least 5'7", of course cute. No lighter than me, college graduate at the least, out going. I have to have outgoing because I'm not so he has to be the life of the party. Humor is a must. Loving, gentle, kind, considerate. All the things listed in the bible that describes what true love is and is not. Confident but not cocky, nice dresser but not obsessed, giving, nurturing but not a push over. I don't want him being a yes man and volunteering for everything and everybody. I need him to myself 95% of the time :-) Smart, peaceful, romantic. Yes, romantic. I have never listed that before in my things I want in a mind. After dating my ex and a few other guys in the past, I have come to realize that's what was missing, among other things but especially the romance.

Maybe I haven't been the romancing type. Guys romance the ones that really want to spend time with and care about. humph.

There are tons of other things I could ask for and desire but this blog is pretty long enough so I guess I'll end it there. It was kinda nice and warm to think about what I want in a guy. Maybe I'll dream about it tonight and it will come true.

Marriage...DONT DO IT GIRL! unless he's heaven sent

Words from Pastor Jamal Harrison-Bryant:

I often warn women who are contemplating marriage to marry someone who can take care of them. When a woman marries, it ought to be to someone who is capable of taking her to the next level. If she comes from poverty, there is no reason for her to get married and still be impoverished. The role of the man is to take her to another place.

When she gets married, she ought to dress better, drive better, live better, and eat better, not constantly be in a struggle over where her next meal is coming from. My grandmother used to say, 'I can do bad all by myself.

For a woman desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian man, who's settled, has goals, accomplishments and a job. But a goal-oriented and focused man can't just be approached any kind of way.

So the woman who seeks this type of stability must make sure that he stands out above the crowd:

• Make sure your relationship with the Lord is strong and growing.
• Make sure that you are presentable. Working from the inside out, your presentation should be representative of both who you are and whom you seek. Appearance is a reflection of how you see yourself.
• Have the ability to hold an intelligent conversation.
• And most importantly, allow the Holy Ghost to take control. You don't need to go after him. He's going to come after you, because after he sees and smells you and knows that you're in his presence, he's going to want to know who you are!

I know there's somebody reading this who has been chasing after the 'man of your dreams,' but God says, 'Just sit still and allow patience to have her perfect work through Me. '

Furthermore, it's never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man's affection by jumping into bed with him will only backfire and cause him to lose interest in ever developing a lasting relationship. It causes him to lose respect for you and question your character.

However, if he sees that you are dressed with quality, that you smell like you are somebody, that you look like you're doing fine without him, then that will attract the right attention from him. He'll have no choice but to give you his attention. Stop looking so needy, climbing into bed, trying in vain to capture a man's heart.God woke me up in the middle of the night and said, 'The same thing that Naomi told Ruth to do is the same thing that I want them to do for me.'

God is so sick of saints coming to Him trying to get a quickie and never romancing Him for Who he is - going to church screaming, shouting and hollering, but hadn't been intimate with God all week long! Stop trying to treat God like a sugar daddy and start romancing Him with worship and praise: 'I'm yours Lord...everything I've got...everything I'm not!'

The God we serve, which is the God of love, demands and requires of us foreplay before He gives us what we need. In the book of Ruth, the mother-in-law tells Ruth, 'You have to wash.' John 15:3 reminds us, Now ye are clean through the word which I have spoken unto you. When you sit in the Gospel of Jesus Christ, you are taking a shower. When you hear the unadulterated Word of God, then the dirt and grime that you've accumulated all week long begins to wash off of you.

Ask God to 'create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit.' Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength. Pass this on to those who have found or are seeking Mr. Right. This message is not directed at the receiver, it is directed to women I know that touch other young women that can benefit from this information. We are to be Naomi's of the world today. Our young women need to be informed of how to catch and keep a man that will respect .

" If he can't meet you where you are....leave him where he's at "

'Every Saint Has a Past, Every Sinner Has A Future'

BE REAL! HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY

Somebody Lieing!

So, I'm talking to Mississippi last night. He's so immature I asked him how old he was. Everytime I ask him he gets offended or doesn't really want to answer the question. Last night we got into a lil argument because he asked was age a problem. I'm like what the hell is the big deal. So I thought he was 34. It's posted on his profile that he's 34 and I could sware he told me he was 34.

1. He said he made a mistake when he filed out his profile and just didnt bother correcting it so he just left it. The problem I have with this is he told me his sister filled out his profile. hmmm (loser)

2. He said he never told me he was 34. He claims he told me he was 32. Lie! Why would I make up something like that? i'm so blahhhhhhhhhhaggg!! Okay so I just left it alone because he was getting real defensive. Y? I have no idea.

The final verdict: I think this negro is in his damn 20s!!! Y?

1. His ass talked about him and his friend riding around like they showboys (wat the hell) I had to get the f off the phone after that shit. I'm like who in the hell talks about riding around first off and riding around like you a showboy??? yyyyyyyyy jesuz?


2. His ONLY conversation is "What are you wearing to bed?" What do you have one? I want to suck your toes. Next time we meet I'm going to bring the massage oil etc. Negro didnt I tell yo ass you AINT gettin no ass!!!!!!!!!!!!??????!!!!!!!!!!! He is so concerned about getting some booty. Y I have no idea. Only because he's not really interested in me but interested in new booty and this negro is in is freakin 20s!


3. I tried to talk to him about what's going on in the news. He was silent. Couldn't tell me whats going on in Mississippi. Nothing. He didnt even know why he voted for Barack or what was going on with the campaign.


4. He orignally told me he was not into watching sports (thats a negative in my book but i was willin to work with him). So we were out this weekend and he was all into the LSU game. I was like negro I thought you werent into watching sports (reminder he played football for university of southern mississippi). His ass talking about " I didnt say that, I said I dont watch NFL or NBA but I like college football" DISSSSSSSSS JIGGA!! I'm like if thats what you wanted to do just say so. Thats all I do on Saturday is watch football. We could have easily done that instead of out tryin to spend money. (the lil town we were in was wasy sorry)


5. Whenever we talk about something I have to repeat myself the next day because he will ask the same question somewhere down the line. I'm like..didnt we already talk about this. Now in my opinion, if your interested in someone wouldnt you want to know more about them and interested in what they have to say and remember?


6. This negro orginally told me his b'day was Sep 25. Yes we talked about that before we met because I said my mom's bday was the 9th my sisters got married in september and my uncle's anniversary was in september. So I know for a fact we had this conversation. On last night his ass said Sep 2. WHAT THE HELL!! Lawd I need a break from the shnit! Something in the kool aid just aint right


7. Showboy!! I cannot get over this one. Who in the heeeeeeelll talks about riding around like a showboy if they in they 30s??


8. When I left, he stayed in the lil town and hung out with his friend. He claims his friend is in his 20s and just wanted to ride around and blah blah blah. Okay..I'm just not having a good day here. Now I mentor a young lady. she will turn 13 this weekend. She dont even ask to go riding around But whatever.
9. I tried to figure out other things to do when we met up in December. I mentioned going to a Grizzles game. This jigga got quiet as heck. I'm like damn. You braggin about all this money you make and toys you drive and how you like plays and doing other things....So, I guess thats a no go. If he think I'm going to drive to Miss. and do the same damn thing everytime and thats going to get him so ass he is sadly miserably mistaken. IDioT!

I got more but i got things to do today. I'm just shaking my head at how pitiful I am messing around and how excited i was yesterday about this fool. pray for me ppl !

Finally met Mississippi

Met up with Mississippi this weekend. We had a few quals on the way, but once we finally saw each other everything was forgotten and we had a good time. I kicked his ass in bowling. Of course being a man he tried to make excuses but we all know the truth. I didn't embarrass him too bad. We only played one game. That way his ego would still be in tact for the weekend. Plus he kicked my but in pool. I actually played pretty good the 1st game to my surprise. Sometimes I have a good game sometimes I have to cheat :-)

We also saw Bernie Mac and Sam Jackson's Soulmen. It was so so. Not really as funny as I thought it would be but I laughed just the same. It was good seeing Bernie in his final show. He was great as usual and Sam's as was load and crazy as hell. What else would you expect. I also expected Isaac Hayes to have a singing part in the movie, but he didnt. It was almost as if he was too old or sick to work with or something. He didnt have many lines and it seemed as if the cast had to play to him and give cues or not go to far off cue. I give the movie a B-.

After all of that running around we chilled for a while, watched a little football, and just hung out. He's a good kisser: A, He's a gentleman: A+, He's very huggable: A, He's cute of course: A, He's interested in a real relationship (at least that's what he says and he seems to act that way): B (i'm still skeptical but that's just my faults), He has a nice body: A, He makes me smile: A, and the negatives are posted 2 post down so I wont repost.

I would say I was not disappointed this trip. He's still a little immature and we still have to work on our conversation topics. They are kinda simple right now. Nothing really thought provoking.

We'll see.

a friend's response to mississippi

friend's answers in red :-)

okay, so i'm thinking about mississippi and i'm thinking i'm just going to throw in the towel. a lot of times i just go with the flow and whatever. however, the more i'm trying to think of what all i need to know about this guy to make a decision the more its so obvious i'm treading shallow water.

i know i know i know it has been there all along, but my goodness when can i catch a break?

1. he said he graduated from southern miss with a degree in mechanical engineering after spending time at a community college. :- Ok. There is really nothing wrong with that, some folks take a while to get through school, various reasons, but at least he had the drive to finish. (he earns 1 points for that)


southern miss does not have a degree per se in mechanical engineering. its more so listed as industrial, construction etc and you go from there. true what he does may be considered mechanical engineering, but for me, this one is just kinda on the line. because he didnt just come right out and say it i dont guess.

2. he works contract jobs. he's from a small town called tallulah, ms. so i'm assuming there's not much there. he says he wants to leave and blah blah. okay, he's 34 he has a engineering degree. whats' the hold up? now i have had a few friends who have had a hard time finding engineering jobs but he's been out like 5 years. so?? Ok. Small town, maybe not a lot of well paying jobs, and you have to wait for ol’ man Jenkins to retire before there is an opening. but at least he had the drive to find legal employment (he earns 1 points for that)


3. major red flag: he lives with his parents. y? here's his story, his parents gave him a house, but he is on the road the majority of the time with various jobs so he gave it to his sister when she got married. hmmmm. my question: whats up with the apt on your own? Dude if I could have lived with my folks just a little bit longer and save some cake!!! Please some folks just like being home. But you are right he should want to be on his own unless he needs to be there for his parents (0 points)

4. he drives a $50,000 car so he says ( i dont know what it is i never ask cuz 1 i dont really care 2 bullsnit), plus he has 2 other vehicles (yawn, cough, whatever) yo ace in yo mama house 1. r u paying bills, 2. y 3. u still acting like a kid 3. there's no computer in the house (he mentioned...the friends house he goes to use the computer..my goodness *eyes rolling mouf twisted* ...the simple things) Heck you throw a few options on a ford and it could run you 50k and why do you need 3 cars if you can only drive one at a time? 1 Paying bills I’m sure he is, 2 Y because his momma would bust him in his head if he didn’t 3 kid, does he act like a kid? 4. computer well that depends on his living situation you know to some ol’ folks the computer is the work of the devil, and momma nem might only have the one dial up phone line so he can’t be using that. But (if you need a computer you should at least get your own Laptop and go find a t-mobile hot spot at Starbucks (-3 point)

okay, the question remains. y am i driving to memphis this weekend to meet a 34 yo who lives with his mama and cares more about the fact he drives a nice car and works out everyday than he does about building something for himself. (-3 points for you) Why are you driving there, are things that bad. He gets (1 point) for working out everyday but -2 for thinking his car is that important

PLEASE SEND THE BULLDOZER TO MY HOUSE ON Saturday MORNING TO STOP ME FROM DRIVING 200 + MILES FOR THIS

okay, this is what i'm going to do. tonight i'm bringing up the living witcho mama stuff and paying bills. i just met him last month. would i be outta order for asking those type of questions? heck no it doesnt matter guys ask for sex on day one as if. so nothing i ask should be considered outta order no matter when i ask especially if i ask it up front to set/change the tone. Yes it’s totally within reason to ask him. And then let me know what he says. You get 1 point for asking


Bottom line because of this situation you both are at -2. So I would hold off on the drive down unless you have other business to handle in Tallulah, MS. And just get to know this cat over the phone a little better

The new guy. Questions.

okay, so i'm thinking about mississippi and i'm thinking i'm just going to throw in the towel. a lot of times i just go with the flow and whatever. however, the more i'm trying to think of what all i need to know about this guy to make a decision the more its so obvious i'm treading shallow water.

i know i know i know it has been there all along, but my goodness when can i catch a break?

1. he said he graduated from southern miss with a degree in mechanical engineering after spending time at a community college. :-

southern miss does not have a degree per se in mechanical engineering. its more so listed as industrial, construction etc and you go from there. true what he does may be considered mechanical engineering, but for me, this one is just kinda on the line. because he didnt just come right out and say it i dont guess.

2. he works contract jobs. he's from a small town called tallulah, ms. so i'm assuming there's not much there. he says he wants to leave and blah blah. okay, he's 34 he has a engineering degree. whats' the hold up? now i have had a few friends who have had a hard time finding engineering jobs but he's been out like 5 years. so??

3. major red flag: he lives with his parents. y? here's his story, his parents gave him a house, but he is on the road the majority of the time with various jobs so he gave it to his sister when she got married. hmmmm. my question: whats up with the apt on your own?

4. he drives a $50,000 car so he says ( i dont know what it is i never ask cuz 1 i dont really care 2 bullsnit), plus he has 2 other vehicles (yawn, cough, whatever) yo ace in yo mama house 1. r u paying bills, 2. y 3. u still acting like a kid 3. there's no computer in the house (he mentioned...the friends house he goes to use the computer..my goodness *eyes rolling mouf twisted* ...the simple things)

okay, the question remains. y am i driving to memphis this weekend to meet a 34 yo who lives with his mama and cares more about the fact he drives a nice car and works out everyday than he does about building something for himself.

PLEASE SEND THE BULLDOZER TO MY HOUSE ON Saturday MORNING TO STOP ME FROM DRIVING 200 + MILES FOR THIS

okay, this is what i'm going to do. tonight i'm bringing up the living witcho mama stuff and paying bills. i just met him last month. would i be outta order for asking those type of questions? heck no it doesnt matter guys ask for sex on day one as if. so nothing i ask should be considered outta order no matter when i ask especially if i ask it up front to set/change the tone.